Why is there such a high divorce rate if people take a vow of "until death do us part?"?

Question

Are vows just worthless or ignored?

Answer 1

they just aren't serious,unfortunately.

Answer 2

I guess those who divorce don't really understand what the heck they were saying on their wedding day/night. It's devastating for couples to divorce. It shows how weak they really are. No marriage is perfect. It is up to the wife and the husband to deal with the problems. When they fight, they should fight maturely [not those immature brats who always think they're right]. This is why relationships take TIME and KNOWLEDGE. You need to have time to know the person REALLY well. So if by any chance you see a flaw from your partner that you dislike you have choice: Either deal w/ it, accept it, and stay with your partner. OR Just end the relationship. Another reason why it takes time and knowledge is b/c people don't reveal everything to their partner. Sometimes people put on a mask just to impress their partner. So when marriage comes, they finally take off their mask and reveal their true self. [Woah biggest mistake right].

What bothers me the most are the celebrity marriages. These marriages are taken for granted. They are giving the worst message to their fans/admirers.

Answer 3

People want everything very easy. Marriage means compromise, commitment, sacrifice, trust and love. People are so eager to divorce because they don't want to deal with problems and they do not understand that life itself is a struggle, they think that if they divorce they can find the right "person" in the future and the only thing that they change is the last name. They don't realize that we as humans everyone has something, nobody is perfect. We make mistakes in life but people are tired of being understanding, compassionate, respectful, loving and patient. Marriage is not easy, and people get married for many reasons but they forget very quick how to respond to the demands of a serious relationship which is marriage. And at the same time that show you when a society is decadent. Nobody wants to fight, to struggle, for them is so easy to go to a lawyer and get a divorce.

Answer 4

I guess this depends on what kind of marriage they have. My husband and I had a traditionally religious arranged marriage. I never saw him before the day of our marriage but we did correspond via e-mails, phone, posting letters (and exchanged photographs). It was a decision between our families and these kinds of marriage are 90% more effective than love based marriages (when a male and female date each other and decide on their own). I am not saying that everyone should do this because it is a rare thing indeed but before anyone plans to be married they must consider both families and also be sure that the person whom they are marrying shares their religious beliefs, goals, and plans for the future. They must be sincere about their wishes and expectations. This will be the only way that they can truly build a successful marriage that will last a lifetime.

Answer 5

There are so many different reasons for people to divorce that there's no way to say that the vows are not being honored. Its just that not enough people try hard to work at keeping their vows, it's too easy to give up for some.

Answer 6

Is that emotional death? Physical death? Are those vows to be maintained in abusive relationships?

Have you followed the golden rule and the ten commandments to the letter? Are those words any more worthless? Should you considered them ignored also? Self righteousness is also a sin as is judging.

That is why we are imperfect people. I believe that is why we have "been covered in the blood of the lamb."

Answer 7

Very good question cuz I wonder that too. But this is how I answer it because people do change from time to time. And some couples they change into different directions and this will lead to time when they realize they are too different now so that they can't live together anymore.

That's why it is advised that it is important to grow together in same direction. Of course, easily said than done. Marriage life is not easy, we all know that!

Just hope married people will not let go their marriages until they really think they have to do so.

Answer 8

It's still in there from when Protestants were Catholics and Henry VIII of England established the Protestant Church because he wanted a divorce, which the Catholic Church wouldn't allow. Obviously someone decided to leave the death part even though divorce was available as an option to death.

Answer 9

Well I feel some people may not be mature enough to be married, like I was my first time. I can look back now and see I was clearly too young with not enough life experience. Sometimes we get ourselves into a situation not realizing what is involved. I feel most people would have better luck waiting until 30's-40's to marry. By this age, we have experienced life enough to realize what it is we want and we know what we have to do to make a marriage work.

Answer 10

Vows are often taken in haste without knowing everything one should know before taking on such a magnanimous promise.
Example #1 : I got married at 18 and thiought we had everything in common, drugs, sex and rock-n-roll. Disn;t know I'd find him screwing every 2-bit whore in townm tat the drugs would lead him to beat me and that someday we would have a baby and i refused to raise her in that environment.
He killed himself.
#2: Thought I had found the anti-dote. A rich, straight-arrow engineer. Overlooked his bad temper and the fact that his "ex" was a raving lunatic. Turns out he was still married to her an dhis temper turmed violent. Sent me to the hospital on more than one occaision. I fled for my life.
# 3: Thought I had played it by the book since we did n;t have sex before betrothal, turned out he wasn't that interested in sex because he was a cross-dressing fag. After 6 years of bitter disappontment we grew to hate each other.
Lesson here: Look before you leap, them wait awhile and look again.
Don't ignore the warniong signs. If something doesn;t feel right, it probably isn't right.

Answer 11

Divorce is too convenient these days, so people don't try as hard as they used to. Marriage vows are totally worthless these days.