My boyfriend has been going through a difficult time as he is looking for a new job. He is not happy with his current one. He is looking for a job in my area. We are in a long-distance relationship. I am going to meet him this Friday as he invited me to go to to his country for a weekend. His friend has a farewell party and he wanted me to be there for it. The thing is since he has been focusing on his job search, I feel like he has been neglecting me. He asked me to be patient, strong and to let him concentrate and we can relax this weekend together. The thing is I became needy of him in the past two days and he got very very angry with me last night telling me that I have no respect for him and he said I don't support him at all and he told me if I don't stop annoying him, he will not talk to me anymore. I am so sad. I feel like he does not care about me anymore? What should I do please?
2006-12-06 17:52:44 · 7 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For goodness sake, STOP!you sound like you're having a PMS.Do not let emotions take over u especially if it will hurt your relationship with your boyfrnd.He might be angry at u sometimes but it doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore.just ask yourself, do you love n care about him?if your answer is 'yes', then do not put any conditions to that.Last but not least,stop thinking about your needs only, just be happy what u have now.
2006-12-06 18:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by CinnamonCity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is try to support his job change. He's looking for a job in your area, so that must mean he wants to spend more time with you. I can understand feeling needy, but maybe he just wants to relax. If you're in a long distance relationship then its going to be a big move and maybe he's a bit afraid of that. When he comes over to visit you, give him a nice long back massage and kiss his neck softly and tell him that you're happy he's trying to better himself and hope that you'll be able to spend some quality time together when he has the time.
I find that the more you push for attention, the more they wanna back off. Let them come to you
2006-12-07 01:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever show a man your needy of them. Not only is that unnattractive but its annoying and men take advantage of woman like that. You also have to respect him because he is trying to find a job. In the mean time have a little me time. Do stuff for yourself. Hang out with the girls. Just dont act like the way you are/.
2006-12-07 02:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do need the space to be able to concentrate and sometimes they can feel smothered by someone who needs to be with them too much but if you're really in need and he just doesn't care then something is seriously wrong in the relationship. You should focus more on your own life and happiness just in case things don't work out. Please read the article, "How do relationships work?" at www.thejazzwriter.com / relationships it might be very helpful.
2006-12-07 02:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by jazzcrazy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT be clingy or needy. He's under a lot of stress right now, and can't handle your demands on top of what he's already facing. He still loves you, but you can't be attached at the hip anymore. Remember: he has to have a living too.
2006-12-07 02:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would find out why he has been neglecting you. Us women get very needy at times!! He just has to learn to live with it. And if he isnt willing to stick with you and take care of you then ditch him for somebody better.
2006-12-07 01:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by pinkforyouonly21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on! Grow up. He wouldn't move all the way to you and disrupt his life like that if he didn't care. Stop thinking about yourself for a while and be there for him. If anything, you're killing what you have and you won't be able to blame anyone but yourself for it.
2006-12-07 02:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋