my husband have been quitting his job for 1 year. he wants to work back but he has trouble sleeping at nights and wake up in the morning.he tried sleeping pills but not work. he cannot work with people because he dont like to be told to and when he do his own business he wants to do things his way and not others.hes like his fatrher everything is wrong nothing is right.he even cursed when he's angry.we live with his parents.i am really sick and tired of his attitude.sometimes i'm thinking of leaving him but when i'm thinking of my daughter and how nice he could be when he is, i'm pulled back.but i don't want my daughter to live with it.i dont know what to do.advice please....
2006-12-06 17:14:31 · 12 answers · asked by bumblebee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband cannot sleep due to the frustration he feels over lack of a job. You are not helping the situation any if you are not being supportive of him. On top of that, you live wiht his family, and I'm sure he is getting alot of slack from his dad on this too. The two of you need to talk about finding your own place, another job, maybe another city. Meanwhile, you married each other "for better, for worse". Remember that.
2006-12-06 17:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by crash 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband certainly seems to have a lot of problems, it's no wonder you are confused !! Personally l don't think he really wants to work, he is just making excuses. Honestly let's face it, none of us really like to be told what to do at work, we all want to do things our way but unfortunately that is not always possible. I think the first thing you should do is move out of his parents home as it is making things too easy for him. He needs to start acting like a man and support his own family. Perhaps his mother and father do too much for him. I don't blame you for being sick of his attitude. I would suggest you have a big talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe if you were to tell him that you were considering leaving him it might just make him wake up to himself. Who knows ?? Don't put up with this any longer. Neither you nor your daughter deserve his childish ways. Good luck
2006-12-07 01:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling and it is sometimes easier to put our troubles on the back burner and try to forget about them. But the truth is that when a man takes a wife and has children it is his responsibility to support his family. If he is not doing this then he has broken your marriage vows. You shouldn't feel that you are wrong to leave him if he is not managing things. He has breeched the marriage agreement religiously and legally so the choice is really up to you. You have to decide how to live with things and have to find the courage within yourself to make a change.
2006-12-07 01:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs professional help. He maybe clinically depressed. Clinical Depression is most of the time ignored and the symptoms escalate and not only the person depressed is affected but his family and everyone else around him.
You and your husband need to seek help.
You need to be involved in this because you are married and you need to understand to be able to help him through this.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 01:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by mssy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar boat and i tell him no one likes to work, that's why they call it work instead of happy fun time and have to pay people to do it.
I ain't wat you call a gold digger, but i ain't looking for no broke ... fil in the blank....
I'm thinking my kids might be better off in the long run even of it's nessy at first
you hafta break eggs to make an omlette and he is running out of cheese!!!
2006-12-07 01:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tziporrah B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to a counselor and let them know your situation, they will be able to help you sort through what is the best thing to do.
2006-12-07 01:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision that will be best for all concerned.
Perhaps you need to speak with a professional, to help you sort it all out, as to what you need to do...And how to go about it.
2006-12-07 01:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice would be counseling on this matter as it seems he has a beautiful family.
2006-12-07 01:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can work few hours,as part time.You are right, if you feel sick and tired of his attitude.Talk with him about, if he can work few hours.Good luck.
2006-12-07 01:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds bipolar. Please make an appt for him with your regular family doctor. He will tell you how to proceed.
2006-12-07 01:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋