I know a woman who is married and not happy but stays b/c of the kids. I'm not one who goes for married women but doesn't she deserve to get what she needs. What if what she needs, she can get from elsewhere? Why can't a single man supply that need secretly? LOL
2006-12-06 17:10:11 · 29 answers · asked by symbol313 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A woman who is unhappy, well she usually stays because of children, guilt trip, so if her husband is not providing, emotional support, or what she needs, I say said she is entitled to go and find it, but she must leave the marriage to do so, then that is where things become hard because of the guilt she feels, for leaving, and possible fear of losing custody of the kids, hard one, I know believe me. No win situation.
2006-12-06 17:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL bc she might be able to fix whatever is wrong with the marriage and if you step in to do whatever they will not have a chance to fix the problem and then what happens if you want more like to marry her yourself then you wont be able too unless she gets divorced and if she does not want to then you are SOL that would be rough on the kids if they ever catch you and kids are smart the will find out. ITS NOT WORTH IT. my mom friend is in the same situation she has been with a married man since i was born and much longer bc her kids treat him like there daddy but he is married to anthor man and the kids are much older then i am they are married and have there own kids its messed up. HE IS STILL WITH IS WIFE. so hat relationship is gone nowhere she has wasted her life with this man for i dont know how many years. I would just go with someone that you can actually be with and have a normal functioning life with the person. IF she gets a devorce then it would be different but i would wait and see what her marriage is gonna do first see if they are gonna get married and if not then stay away bc you do not want ALL the bangage anyway. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL GO NOWHERE. i know ur a man but men get tired of booty calls and want more out of life too do even say you dont cause i know one day you would. i bet anyway. so why tie up your life with someone where the relationship wont go anywhere at all.
good luck.
i answered the best i could.
2006-12-07 01:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has kids, it would really be selfish to just think about herself,.but if staying means that she cannot enjoy her life even with her kids, then she deserves to be set free- only if she has valid reasons, if what she will do will benefit her more and would not wound her children or affect them for life, if the single man likes her he must also think of the consequences the married woman promised a great promise, you really do become selfish if you leave everything behind for your self, but if it will make you better as a person then go do it
2006-12-07 01:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mainly because its called adultery in a marriage, which is against the vows which were taken with a commitment. A single man should supply single females with their needs and not cause problems with married ones.
2006-12-07 01:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unhappy then she should leave. Kids are smart. They know when somthing is not right. The woman should not cheat on her husband. If she is that unhappy that she feel that she wants to be with someone else then she should get a divorce first.
2006-12-07 01:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by "P" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. I have heard that before from others.
She is playing a dangerous game and you should not be part of it. Her husband may not be unhappy. There are usually three sides to every story in this sort of lifestyle; his, hers and the truth. Find a single woman to share you time with.
2006-12-07 01:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she is truly unhappy she should leave. There is no need to stay for the sake of the children. Cheating only causes more problems for her and possibly her kids, when and if she decides to leave.
2006-12-07 03:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she deserves some happiness. A lot of men treat their wives just awful and the wives take it because of the kids they dont want to hurt them. but yeah if you can make her happy that would be good to give her some peace. it may be wrong, but life is too short to be unhappy. she shouldn't have to be miserable forever
2006-12-07 01:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Valerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, how would you feel if you were the husband she was stepping out FROM? She's not doing her children any jusstice by staying with someone for their sake. That's about the lamest excuse out there. She's simply too spineless to make a decision for the benefit of all concerned........Including herself!
2006-12-07 01:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you want your wife to cheat on you, rather than tell you what was wrong in the relationship and try to fix it?
I didn't think so.
No matter what is wrong in a relationship, it doesn't make it better to cheat. You can't right a wrong by creating even more problems and mistrust. But you already knew that.
2006-12-07 01:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋