Her kids don't really like him either. Last night, there was an episode which led to me telling her to choose between him or me in her life which upset her. But hey, I don't need him calling me names and treating her and her kids the way he does, they just lost their dad six months ago. He told me that he can't stand her kids and can't stand to be around them or even in the same room as them. I have told my sister, he has to accept them all or none of them, why can't she see this? What do I do? He sure likes to spend her money when he is given the chance to but she don't see this either.
2006-12-06 16:48:53 · 8 answers · asked by dini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, after giving her the choice two nights ago, she is acting like nothing has happened. I think this guy has probably told her not to worry, I will get over it and things will go back to normal but it won't happen, she is my twin sister and I don't want to see her with such a jerk. My fiance has known him for years and he doesn't like him either. She didn't have a good marriage and never felt needed or wanted and supposedly this guy makes her feel that way but in the meantime, I believe takes advantage of her. Her kids don't like him even though he may make their mom feel important to him. I don't want to lose my sister but I can't give in when she is with this guy.
2006-12-07 17:16:19 · update #1
She is an idiot for putting her children in that situation. That is being an unfit parent plain and simple. You need to tell her that or she's going to have a pile of dysfunctional kids on her hands.
2006-12-06 16:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When all her money is spent, then he will move on. He certainly has no "love" feelings toward her. AND unfortunately, she is more concerned with trying to keep a relationship with him than with her kids. She won't listen to anything you tell her. And the needs of her kids are not being met as long as she is seeking the company of this man. At this point she is "blind" to what is actually happening.
My cousin was victim to the same situation. She met a man months after her husband died and he used her and spent all her money that she got from the life insurance. He treated her badly and her kids. Within months he convinced her to marry him, and then another year later they divorced and he got half her money??? And the thing is, my cousin was a very smart and pretty lady. And yet she fell victim to the same kind of "loser" guy. I think she is feeling very needy right now, and having this man around is somehow feeling that void. Unfortunately she won't even see the bad in him until it is too late. There is nothing you can do except spend extra time with her children while they are being ignored.
There are some good books to read on the subject if you could convince her to read them. One that comes to mind is "Men who can't Love".
2006-12-07 01:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the man has to be insane to think that this woman is gonna get rid of her kids for him. It's part of the package. Someone has to give, either he starts liking the kids and vice versa or it won't work out. Children don't lie, and they sense things that some adults can't. Maybe its a sign he's up to no good!
2006-12-07 01:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by pinkforyouonly21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this woman needs to open her eyes so she can get some sense in her head. Children are a package deal. If he doesn't like the children he doesn't like her. What kind of mother would settle for that????? Get her away from him. What he's got she doesn't need! Help her find it some place else. the woman needs mental help!
2006-12-07 00:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is widowed then she is not in her right mind... Not sure what you can do... maybe appeal to the MOM in her.
Been there done that myself... took me 9 years to heal after 28 years of marriage.
2006-12-07 01:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off, you have to find out how much she really cares about this guy. if she cares for him alot, then you might actually be in trouble. if not so much tell her she should spend more time paying attention to what you are saying and what her kids are trying to tell her and not to let her emotions could her judgement of wat people are telling her. try to catch him in an act that you can prove to her of what he's really like.
2006-12-07 00:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ta Ta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start dating him, so that your sister gets jealous, and breaks off with him, then ditch him
2006-12-07 01:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I PRAY HE DOESN'T HURT HER KIDS OR HER, HOPEFULLY SHE'LL SEE HIM FOR WHAT HE IS, SOON.
~GOOD*LUCK~
LOOK OUT FOR THEM IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, CALL 911
2006-12-07 00:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋