How do you deal with a best friend who treats your friendship like a relationship?

Question

I don't want to end the friendship, I am just tired of arguing with her about why I haven't called her in a while when the truth is I have just been busy.

Answer 1

It is a relationship! It's a different kind of relation, but the two of you are related by your friendship and it's "best" status. That being said, treat this delicate matter with kid gloves you feel me?
You need to sit down and let her know that you value her friendship but you feel she is confused about her "role" in your life. Maybe she needs you right now a little more than usual, the scale can tip to the other end too you know? You may need her one day and she's too busy for you. Get an understanding and set some boundaries.....Keep it real but keep it lite.

Answer 2

Honesty is the grounds of any relationship. You have to just lay your cards on the table. Give it to her straight. If she is a true friend, she'll understand and appreciate you telling her and things will continue as they should be. If she fancies you more than just a friend, she might not react very well, and even then, you will have done the right thing. It's very hard, but the truth is the only way to go.

Answer 3

OMG!! I have a friend exactly like that!

For a while (years) she would call on a daily basis to "check in". It's not so frequent now since we both have kids but if I haven't called her or answered her calls in a couple of days I feel guilty and worry about her giving me S#$@.
Sometimes I find myself calling her when I know she's not home and leaving a "check in" message so I won't have to talk to her. But of course she'll still complain because I should have called her cell.

Don't get me wrong - I love her dearly - but I have a family and life gets busy sometimes!!

And I don't feel the need to talk to anyone on a daily basis!!
I've tried explaining this to her but she doesn't seem to get it.
I just try to accept that it is part of who she is and since she's one of my best friends, it honestly can't be that bad!!

Answer 4

Then tell her that you were...and if she doesn't believe you then tell her that she is treating this friendship as a relationship and she should believe you...because it is a friendship, only in Relationships you should argue (not really but in relationships people do argue)

Answer 5

have you told her that youve been busy. if you have then ask her how she feels about your relationship and tell her that you want nothing more than a friendship. break it down easy, and dont say anything stupid you will regret. just be like yeah i think youre taking this friendship farther than we are really and maybe you need to chill a bit.

Answer 6

Maybe you just need to sit down and talk about where you are at the moment and where does she think you both are. Maybe she thinks your friendship has become something more , and she assumes it's the same way for you?

Answer 7

I know how you feel, in same situation myself, it is becoming unbearable, if something does change soon, going to be hard but will have to call it quits, as it is taking a toll on my health, sorry that is all I can tell you.

Answer 8

let her see and realize that you're just friends.. and if possible you should start looking for a serious commitment with someone..
by doing that.. she will finally realize that your friendship is just a friendship thing and not a special one.
do not show special care for her.. just act as friends.

Answer 9

Explain to her why you havent called.

Answer 10

if she is your friend she should understand about this situation =)