If you found out that your spouse slept with one of your close cousins?
would you:
(A) forgive and forget and try to move on with your marriage, keeping in mind the fact that you've done terrible terrible things to your significant other also (like cheating even though it wasn't their cousin)
or...
(B) leave them and never ever look back
2006-12-06 16:24:57 · 16 answers · asked by mamacita 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on what you can live with. If you can forgive him fully and go forward knowing neither of you will cheat again, then go for it. But if you think one or both of you could "slip" again or you can't ever really get over it, then it's time to walk away. Sounds like you guys need better communication because something is going on to cause you both to stray. It wouldn't be fair to not forgive him of his indiscretions when you yourself are guilty of the same thing, though not with a cousin. Cheating is cheating.
2006-12-06 16:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm well I found it interesting that most of the guys comments where the easy way out like:"Leave em" or "Sleep with the best friend"
This seems to be a relationship without any trust or loyalty. If you're not really interested in a serious relationship, I think you should amicably part ways and have your fun times until you're ready. So I guess neither for me sorry.
2006-12-06 16:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by akafinewine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose (A).
Cheating is cheating no matter who it's done with if it's not "your significant other". I would also forgive the cousin but cut her branch off my family tree. Family should know there are boundaries as to what you are willing to share or let them borrow.
Who knows, you just my find yourself with a"cuz-inlaw" and need forgiveness too. Afterall, you're already capable of infidelity.
2006-12-06 16:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by wildblackflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would go with A. because you cheated too.
The fact that your spouse slept with your cousin is going to make the next family reunion real interesting.
2006-12-06 16:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forgive but don't forget but it was OK when you cheated but now that he have you wont to run out and leave him . but your cousin is blood and she shouldn't have had sex with your man. you did it and so did he you and him need to come clean with each other but if he find out that you have cheated also he would be the one to leave you because he would think you was the one that did him wrong. men want you to forgive them but when you have did it they want to leave you. i think you and him need to move on. because none of you have been faithful
2006-12-06 16:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A with a modification) I would forgive BUT never forget. You have to work through it with your spouse, and be honest about your secrets as well! Why are you cheating on each other anyways???
2006-12-06 16:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by shirah_life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happen before or after your marriage?
If before, I will choose A.
If after, listen to your spouse explaination first.
If acceptable choose A
if not choose B or if there is a C?
2006-12-06 16:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ho S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B and your cousin I wouldnt talk to her neither just leave both of them alone you can do so much better.
2006-12-06 16:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave them and never look back ..
i am sure if I stay I would never forget and forgive ..
2006-12-06 16:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is just wrong, but cheating wiith family is unforgiveable. i wouldnt forgive, and ur cousin just as wrong too, send him packing.
2006-12-06 16:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋