2006-12-06 16:23:24 · 9 answers · asked by gretchenanddaniel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is my experience that you should consider the other parent. As our children get older and understand what is going on they will blame you for the distance between them and their other parent. Our children need and have the right to have access to each parent when they choose.
The relationship break down is between two adults and is not because of the children. Our children have a different relationship with us as parents. What goes wrong in a marriage/relationship should not be placed upon the children of that relationship nor should they be used to hurt or get back at the other parent for letting us down, because the children will work it out and you will be more than sorry.
How would you feel if you were the parent who didn't have custody???? and your children were taken too far away from you to see them when you or they needed to.
We don't own our children, we borrow them and if you want your children to resent you moving will do it even if they have the worst parents in the world. It is not for one parent to decide what time is available to the other to share with the most precious gifts we can ever have the pleasure of receiving in our lives.
We teach our children to share and we as adults should set the example by sharing our children with each other as parents.
2006-12-06 17:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally you have to have approval of either the other parent or the court to leave the state. The consideration will be of what is in the best interest of the children. The court will be concerned that each parents rights are also met. I would suggest not moving until you get approval, because you do not want to risk the custody being changed to kidnapping. A lawyer will most likely be needed if the other parent is not budging.
2006-12-06 16:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by John E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, those who say if you have custody then you can just pick up and go are not well informed. This used to be the case, but in many states you can't take the children out of state unless you have the other parent's permission or you can go to court and prove that it is necessary in order for you to provide for the children. If you can't afford to live in your current state because you cannot afford rent and food and if you have a job opportunity, housing opportunity and/or a strong support system in another state, you might be able to get a court order that allows you to move. You might, though, be required to provide transportation for your children to visit with their father on holidays or summer break.
The laws vary from state to state. You need to contact an attorney or legal aid and get more information about your particular case. Don't just take the word of people on here who assume that having physical or legal custody of your children gives you the undisputed right to do whatever you want to do regarding them.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 16:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cactus Flower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how the custody terms were made in your divorce. Most likely if you have "full" custody then there shouldn't be a problem as long as you provide the ability for the other parent to get thier visitation. Most likely, this will have to go to family court if the other parent insists that you don't move them out of the state.
2006-12-06 16:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMOHO -- you don't. Long distance parenting just isn't really effective. Again, just my opinion. You don't offer details but kids do need both parents. I know my ex wasn't much of a dad for a long time -- about 7 years after the divorce he finally grew up a bit and he's really good with the kids. But even before, I never would have moved them more than a couple hour from him.
2006-12-06 16:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by laurie888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have to keep the best interest of the child at heart. I don't think any child would benefit from not being able to see the other parent.
You may not be able to move if the other has visitation rights.
2006-12-06 16:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to an attorney about it. The laws are different in every state and in my state the other party can tell the police you kidnapped the kids and you can be arrested. Just make sure you talk to an attorney about it before you move. Good luck.
2006-12-06 17:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have custody then there should't be anything keeping you. it's your choice and you need to make the best choices for your children. good luck!
2006-12-06 16:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless the other parent have legal visits, then you can just pick up and move.
2006-12-06 16:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋