Ok guys, I'm married, but theres a gal that i like and she likes me but neither of our marrigaes are worth a crap. she wants to get together and have a little fun, would it be worth it, or would i be just getting myself into another problem that wouldn't be worth it? I'm confused and need help...
2006-12-06 16:10:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to clear things up. i havn't done anything. I'm not sure if my wife has but she has a done a few things that raises a red flag. This gal and me really click and get along great. the point isn't if i should cheat it's wheather you think life is worth taking a risk or not. like i said my marrage sucks, and i want a divorce, but just cant afford to lose everything.
2006-12-06 16:24:16 · update #1
If your getting a divorce anyway, the question is how much do you want to pay for your wife not to live with you. Have a affair that she can bring up in a court room and you have just doubled you payments.
2006-12-06 18:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cleve T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is there for you to be confused about?You say your marriage is not worth a crap.Yet that does not change the fact that you are a married man.You say you want a divorce/can not afford to lose everything.Yet you are willing to lose your self respect.Your integrity.Your honor.By choosing to cheat with a married woman/have a little fun as you put it.I believe that marriage is a sacred bond that should be honored>Don't you? Maybe if you spent more time trying to work your marriage out/focus on the positive things in your marriage/instead of the negative.May be your marriage would mean more to you.I think people have so many problems in their everyday lives that they lose focus on the reason they got married in the first place.Only you know the answer to your question because you are the one that has to live with the risk/the choices you choose to make.I just hope it is the right one.
2006-12-06 18:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If both of your marriages aren't meaningful then get a divorce and persue a relationship with her. I'm assuming when you speak of a little fun, you're talking about sex. But there's a problem with that, either way someone usually develops deeper feelings and will mess up what you think as just simple fun. Aside from that does your wife and does her husband deserve that? I highly doubt that. It would only cause more problems in each of your marriage. Secondly, to answer your questions, most likely it will not be worth it and will cause additional problems. Good luck with making the right decision.
And as far risking the loss, that's a decision you have to make. Will your gains make up for your losses? Either way it sounds like a divorce is due. If anything else, it doesn't hurt to seek counseling with your wife together in hopes that it will last.
2006-12-06 16:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it's not worth it. Experance has tought me this.
What happens when the new gal wants more and more and you can't provide it? What happens when one of you want to break it off and the other doesn't? The other person could cause alot of hurt and problems for the other.
First you should try to fix your current relationship/marriage or get out of it before opening another can of worms with someone else. Also, figuring out why your not satisfied with your current marriage/relationship will help you with your other relationships, if you decide to get out.
2006-12-06 16:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by picturekevin23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by swindler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm crossing the assigned 'guys only' answers. This might help you decide. Think of this scenario . . . your wife is on this Yahoo Answers site and posing the question . . . " Girls, I'm married and there's this guy I like and he likes me, both his and my marriages are worth crap. . . this guy wants to get together and have a little fun . . . is it worth it ? " Meanwhile you're sitting innocently off to the side totally unaware that she is preparing to cheat on you with another guy behind your back. Do your wife a favor...she does not 'do it for your heart anymore' have the courage to end the marriage, then date others. My gosh ! ! ! You guys (and gals) who cheat behind their lovers backs are spineless. I'm not angry, just frustrated with people who do this to themselves and others.
2006-12-06 16:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of leaving your current relationship before cheating!?! Why do you stay married if it's soooo bad and don't give me this for the kids crap because the kids don't need to see a bad marriage. Grow up and leave your marriage if it's that bad and then you are free to be with whomever you choose.
2006-12-06 16:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by syntagma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never worth it! If she can wait long enough for you both to end your current marriages, then she might be a woman worth being with. If she can't wait that long, you've got to consider the fact that she might be the reason her marriage is bad.
2006-12-06 16:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by bobthebuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help, the reason, why your marriage and her marriage probably isn't working out right, could be because your spouse and her spouse my have that "sense/feeling" that you like other people and you and you want to be with someone else, that can really mess up a marriage! People really have instincts
2006-12-06 16:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by LovelyMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you will want each other more ,and it will cause a very big problem.Even if you both ended up bein husband and wife later in life,remember that you will regret it and you will always have the feelings that she's been seeing other man behind your back.Are you game enough?
2006-12-06 16:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋