My boyfriend is quite a bit older than I am. He is 37 and I am 23......yeah yeah yeah I know "he's to old for you", I'm not buying it. We have been together for 2 yrs now and he just doesn't like to have sex as much as I do. Is this normal for his age? He is a once every two weeks kinda guy and I'm a twice a week kinda girl. (cheating is not an option)
2006-12-06 16:10:20 · 18 answers · asked by krazy_kiss1469 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is not cheating, I can account for most of his time. We have talked about it, he said he just doesn't want it as much as he did when he was younger.
2006-12-06 16:25:36 · update #1
It was pretty much the same a year ago, sometimes we have sex a couple time a week but not often.
2006-12-06 16:27:42 · update #2
it depends on the persons sex drive. try getting him some medication to increase his sex drive.
2006-12-06 16:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, well, I am 37 years old myself! My boyfriend is 22. We are happy together and have sex 1 to 2 times a day, 7 days a week. It's really up to him. He's the one who is tired and can't do it sometimes, not me. I can be exhausted and still up for it if I have the chance.
To me, it's all chemistry. Some guys just don't rock my world that way. It has not been an age thing for me. The happier I am in a relationship, the more I am in the mood.
2006-12-06 16:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Asian Mama 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 43 and I am 37. I am thankful we have the same sex drive. It's kind of crazy to say but we act like teenagers :-)
I would say it depends on the person. It might be that you both need to spice it up. Don't be afraid to try new things. Add some toys. Just let go! tell him all your thoughts and fantasies. If you already do these things and you know he is not cheating then I would say he just has a low sex drive.
2006-12-06 16:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 51 and I am 34, if you love him, the age thing is not an issue. Our relationship is the opposite, he wants it almost everyday, and I am happy with once a week. Is he under stress at work? Try to seduce him, wear sexy clothes, make his favorite dinner, take him out somewhere. He may just be in a rut. Be flattered that he is comfortable with you and doesn't think that sex is the only way that you will be happy with him. There is also the do it yourself method, if you let him watch, you just might get him interested.
2006-12-06 17:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least once a day and at 23 you must be tight and playful without any wrinkles and you have perky nips. 15 years is a lot older but not too old. If I were him I would slip you the hot salami at least 1-2 times a day and nut all over you. He probably has a few girls on the side. As men we can't be trapped with only one woman, we need variety. It's not your fault, try harder and tell him and show him he doesn't need other females because you can fulfill all his needs. Good luck ...
2006-12-06 16:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Once every two weeks...at 37???" Oh my God. I'm sorry, but I think you should consider the possibility that he's sleeping with someone else. That's like some old geezer ...once every 2 weeks. If his sex drive is that low, maybe he needs to see a doctor.
2006-12-06 16:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty low sex drive compared to the average male. What are you gonna do in a few years when you hit your peak (30's-40's) and want even more? Sexual incompatability can ruin relationships over time.
2006-12-06 16:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man's sex drive is not set in stone. And you can easily do something to make him want sex, when you want it too.
I've been in a somewhat similar situation with my lady. And she quickly learned to grab my c*ck and make me erect every morning, instead of asking me verbally whether I wanted to have sex or not.
There is no good reason why desire has to come before the erection. Erection itself can get the desire going too.
All the two of you need is to feel comfortable with grabbing and playing with each other sexually, whenever either one of you feels like it. Once he starts grabbing you p*ssy and t*ts, sexual desire will quickly come to you. And the same is true for him, when you start grabbing and playing with his c*ck.
Perhaps the problem between the two of you is not so much lack of sexual desire as lack of understanding of how sexual desire comes about and how to make it happen.
Waiting for your partner's sexual desire to occur spontaneously with little or no influence from you doesn't quite make sense to me. Why don't you do something practical to make it happen instead of sitting back, talking, and agonizing about it?
2006-12-06 17:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitley begin communicating with him about this. There could be a number of reasons why the embers arent igniting more. Every person has different needs and wants. But communicating as much as you can will help.
2006-12-06 16:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think he's too old for you. If you're happy, you're happy. Rejoice in that.
As far as his sex drive goes....I don't think it has anything to do with age. Some peoples desires are just different. Work, stress, etc can be a contributing factor.
2006-12-06 16:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 hubby is 27 his sex drive has gone, used to be everyday 5 yrs ago, now, its 1once a week. if that...
2006-12-06 16:17:31 · answer #11 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋