If you were raped, molested, abused and just plain hated for almost all your life, how do you think you would turn out as a person? What do you think you would be like?
2006-12-06 15:54:30 · 25 answers · asked by Perfectly Insane 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm wondering why I'm the way I am and if anybody else is like me.
2006-12-06 15:55:16 · update #1
I'd probably harbor a lot of anger and resentment and have major trust issue and a drug problem too. Lashing out and dangerous compulsive behavior would probably be the norm of every day life. I would be morose and forbodding. Always being down on myself and never seeing the light at the end of the tunnel either.
I hope this is not you though. Your resolve to live and go on in life is a positive note regardless of any self doubts you may be having. What you have gone through is nothing to take for granted and must be overcome through positive means. Don't continue the cycle of abuse by abusing yourself. Try to find the goodness inside yourself and appreciate those qualities that make you a survivor and fuel your sense of humor to prevail. To love to laugh is a great thing. it's a start. I believe in starts. Keep the positive momentum going and learn to deal with your trauma by addressing it honestly and don't bury it. What happened to you was by no means any fault of your own so don't go believeing that. Fight back against the negative and do not empower those bastards no more. You can become anyone and anything that you wish. The fact that you're still here on this earth is proof that you are a fighter and have it within yourself to overcome this trauma and move on. Realize that you're not alone in this either. There are many other survivors out there that can relate to you and your situation. Seek them out and speak with them. If you don't wish to speak just yet then listen and learn. You can overcome this and lead a fruitful life. I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors. Now go on and begin to live your life rather than just watch it go by. You have it in you. Good Luck gurl!
2006-12-06 16:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mental Floss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tragedy not triumph defines a person's character. Like trying to know light without having seen darkness, the soul needs to understand the opposite to give its counterpart meaning. To lead a perfectly decadent and undisturbed lifestyle is an almost equal hell, that life is empty of meaning, devoid of purpose. How much more does air mean to you in that first gasp when you surface from the water?
I think a human who'd been exposed to such atrocities would be a better and fuller person than i could ever be. She appreciates what i can never, she understands and comprehends what my mind fails to grasp. That person would understand the true destruction and pain caused by hate and cruelty. I think a person who had felt those feelings would be all the stronger and better in ways that someone like me couldn't even try to be.
There would be nothing stopping that person from leading a perfectly healthy and normal life. And their experiences would be all the brighter and fuller because of the contrast echoed in their past. Look at so many great figures in history, their early lives marked by tragedy and pain and struggle yet they would go on to accomplish feats and taste rewards that the masses can only admire and imagine. In the same way that they had once experienced pains and endured lows that the rest could scarcely grasp the truth of in their wildest nightmares.
Nothing is ever fully bad or good, in all things, all, there are elements of both to be found.
2006-12-06 16:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kwisatz Haderach 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be very angry, very untrusting and probably your moods swing very easily.
I'm sure there are times when someone just says a word which triggers a mood swing or conjurs up bad images and memories in your mind.
Yes of course it affects everything in your life. I think you need to forgive yourself and know that it was nothing that you did. It was them. You deserve to be loved and comforted and treated with kindness and respect.
I hope you can find some help and talk your feelings out with someone who can help you. Sometimes your helping others out is the best way to help yourself too.
I don't think people ever lose thier scars, but they are just that, scars from the past, and they don't have to define who you are today.
I think you could turn out one of two ways, miserable, lost and confused and spiteful and hateful at anyone and everyone, or you learn to accept that you are not alone in humanity. Many wrongs are done to many people. It's through helping others that we discover ourselves and you will find you have so much to give and you are probably an amazing person. I'm sure that pain and suffering have made you a very strong person with much to offer so take that negative and turn it into something positive.
2006-12-06 16:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes the same things happened to me. i was raped the 1st time when i was 13. my father was a brutal man.
anyway to answer your question i am now 42 and haven't seemed to be able to get my life together. no matter how i tried somethiing always went wrong. i have a nurses license and i drove a tractor trailer. both good jobs but now i'm sitting at home waiting for my 1st disability check. i've been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality, and bipolar disorder.
the way i could have possibly avoided all this is to have gotten therapy a long time ago. things this terrible will eventually find thier way out if you don't talk about it and get it behind you. you'll never forget but there has to be forgiveness to yourself and whoever hurt you so terribly. part of your life has been stolen but only you can make it better and become the special person you are meant to be. best of luck to you because its a long road to travel but no longer than the one you've been on.
2006-12-06 16:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think that I would be the same type of person I am now since my core values and beliefs would stay the same.
I suppose I would be a bit bitter (which would not be doing anyone good actually).
I think that I would move to a completely new city and try to start with a clean slate. Then try to make new friends when I'm there and hopefully make a success of the remainder of my life.
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2016-10-04 23:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say, I would be a mess. The only thing you can do is to keep your chin up and understand that life is not about that. You can change your life and rise above any problems. Stay strong and find someone who understands and respects you. Doesn't have to be a boyfriend or a girlfriend just someone. A soul mate of sorts
2006-12-06 15:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Katie G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love yourself you can be anything in life that you want to be. Just because who had all this stuff done to you , by someone who is sick in the head dont let that stop you. I am sure that you may have to have some counsling, I know I would. You go for the world, you deserve it.
2006-12-06 16:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are still here proves that there is a purpose to your life--you just haven't discovered it yet. You are still asking why did this happen. People everywhere suffer--no one is exempt, but they don't all experience the same pain. Have you tried counseling for yourself? You need help understanding your feelings and how to deal with them, so you can start healing and moving on with your life.
2006-12-06 16:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how strong of a person you are. If you let it consume you I would think you would be weak inside. If you tried to understand that it wasn't your fault and tried to forge through life, I would think you would be strong. I have never had that happen to me though so I can't honestly say.
I would hope you would be the latter and be a good strong person.
2006-12-06 15:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋