2006-12-06 15:40:14 · 9 answers · asked by Almaas Ahmed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, I agree with the 1st answer, communication and understanding completelly before you say you love. Then you will love with the true love, and once it's true love, its intensity will go up with time. Stress or difficulties of life ... will also tied the 2 together tigher because they help and comfort each other to pass all these.There are a lot of real life examples, the more the couple live together, the more they love each other, and until they die ...
But these days many people live way too shollow and fast (thinking they live "productivelly"), they don't really even know what LOVE really means when they say they love, and they say it too often, too easily ... Many confuse between LOVE and LUST (just mostly physical attraction), they think it completelly is love while they are just passing the first phase of it, when they are just FALLING IN LOVE, means mostly lovng by eyes and ears.
I myself had experienced guys told me after a month or two of knowing me " I love you", "I do love you, very much" ... then things were just messes between us later on, and after 1 or 2 years we still didn't really know yet all about each other ...
Here is a famous saying about true love for reference (can't remember who said):
Attraction of Physic leads to: Lust
Attraction of Intellectual leads to: Admiration/Adoration
Attraction of Soul leads to: Passion
The compound of these 3 attractions is LOVE.
(with the absence of any of those, it's something similar, NOT yet LOVE).
To have LUST, it does not need much time, but in order to see completelly each other's wideness and deepth of intellectual, beauty of soul, it would need quite some times, maybe years. Some people they get married after months, or think they know each other too enough after a year or so of dating to be togerther all life ... Then all those stress, problems, difficulties of living make thier relationship get worse and worse ...
2006-12-06 15:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's necessarily the intesity goes away, I just think you learn to love in a different way with that one person. In a relationship, in the beginning you give it all you've got. You are still trying to impress the person you are going after. When you two become a couple, the intensity slowly wears off, but when it does, the true love should be the base of which the relationship stands on. If anything it is good because it shows that the two of you are comfortable with eachother, you love each other for the long run. It's good to keep it alive, but it's okay if it's not chocolate and roses everyday. Hope this helped out somewhat.
2006-12-06 16:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chavahleah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep yourself busy, exercises maybe. Exercises relieves stress. Do something that makes you feel needed by others and adored. Such as helping special needs children or just children in general. You could wait a while until the pain subsides and try to find somebody else to love. I know this sounds so horrible to say right now, I know you were in the state where you were both crazy about each other, but you can eventually begin a new relationship. This isn't quite in the same category, but my grandmother died. I was so torn with her loss, because she was the only person I could talk to. I was nearly suicidal. I started talking more with my mom again, and felt like I had someone to express myself with again. It took quite a while though. Don't leave yourself with nothing to do, so you can just sit there and think about what has happened. You'll feel emotional and depressed. Try making yourself busy. Maybe get a counselor too if you have no one else to talk to. Good luck and I hope you can deal with this. I know you can.
2016-05-23 02:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The intensity of love or lust? I think you can have a lot of stress in your life and still love someone deeply, and I also think that the daily grind of work, raising children, coping, can affect your libido, but that doesn't mean you don't love your partner.
I think if we adjust our romantic expectations of what constitutes real love, we will be less disappointed in our relationships. No--the feelings you have for your partner are not going to be at the same feverish pitch they were in the beginning of the relationship, but that's where I think people become disillusioned because they have this unrealistic expectation that it should always be like that, when the truth is that it won't. Once you adjust your expectations to the reality of the day in day out of sharing your life with someone, you won't feel as disappointed or disillusioned with the relationship.
2006-12-06 16:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the initial days, only love seen in the eyes. Later days...responsibility, comittment comes 1st. so it is not expressed some times. but it is not off.
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2006-12-06 18:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ashok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
INTENSITY OF EVERYTHING BECOMES WEAK WITH PASSING OF TIME IT IS NATURAL PROCESS OF LIVING LIFE.
2006-12-06 17:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! it is not due to the stress.
It is due to the VARIABILITY, an intrinsic nature of human.
2006-12-06 15:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sky Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and understanding,nothing else.
2006-12-06 15:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋