ok here it goes...... i was with a girl for seven years,we have two kids. she has cheated on me four times through out our relationship. also, during our relationship...she has asked me to help out around the house and spend more time at home. i quit going out but, i didn't really help out that much around the house. so one day i went out with some friends and she got angry with me and said she was leaving me. i talked with her and every thing was fine. then i went out again but, she came with me but, got angry because i got pretty drunk. she was so angry at me and told me that i always say i'm gonna change and that i don't and told me to leave. i left the house. i found out a couple days later that the night that i left.....she slept with one of my so called friends. now what's your advice on this matter? i hope i made it more clear this time for those who read my previous posts.
2006-12-06 15:37:39 · 20 answers · asked by just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you on drugs or something ?Must be be some powerful stuff man! Just dump da ***** flat !You stayed with her after she f**ked around 4 times? Holy sh!t man! Stop being a human doormat.By the way can I borrow $500 I'll pay you back y'know ...whenever.
2006-12-06 15:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will NEVER be good for the two of you. To much trash in the past. Concentrate on being the best parent you can be. Bite your tongue when the kids are around. It is never healthy for the kids to hear things about the parent they still love. Keep other girlfriends away for awhile. When your kids see you happier, which I'm sure you will be, everyone will be better off. Remember once a cheat always a cheat, you should never let this woman make you feel foolish again. And for sure do not take any more of the blame then you deserve. Focus on the kids and without even trying BOOM the next beautiful woman will come along. I would also get some new friends, because real friends don't sleep with their friends mates. Best to you!
2006-12-07 00:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here goes. It sounds to me like you weren't around and she was looking for a family relationship and maybe you were looking for her to be there when you had nothing else to do. She got board of waiting and went looking for a relationship. Best thing to do. No she should have ended the relationship first. So Anyways, she cheated you got back together, nothing changed, cycle went round and round, until she was sick of it. You also mentioned you got pretty drunk. From past experience, one pretty drunk; okay can deal with that, two; maybe dealing with that. A lot of drunk quite a bit; cannot deal with a drunk time to go. so I think you should go, but don't forget the kids come first spend as much time with them as possible and let them know you care no matter what, counseling for both of you to figure out what works and what doesn't, learn to be happy in your own life with or without her. Hope that helps some. Good luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-06 23:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're an innocent victim in this. you probably drink too much(Some people stop getting drunk in their early 20's) You don't help around the house? Why not? You have kids going out partying is over for you. She's wrong for sleeping w/ anyone but I wonder really what is going on between you two. There's more to the story here.
2006-12-07 04:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not living there anymore? Keep it that way. Your relationship obviously wasn't working out, or else you wouldn't have had to leave. She obviously doesn't want to be with you or else she wouldn't have slept with anyone else. And don't talk to your friend because they obviously aren't a real friend if they slept with her. Try to have a civil friendship with her for the kids' sake, but leave the relationship in the garbage where it is
2006-12-06 23:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your situation sounds bad..She cheated 4 times? thats terrible,however you really don,t sound as though you,ve been that great either..you get drunk,go out with friends and don,t help out in the house and with the kids?I think you both are pretty guilty.If you and her really want this marriage to work ,you are both going to have to make some changes....You didn,t say rather you have cheated,have you? even if you haven,t she probably thinks so.......you and her need to have a serious talk and ffind out if you want this thing to work.....
2006-12-06 23:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you putting up with this crap. She is taking advantage of you and controlling you because YOU LET HER. Get some bacbone baby and tell her your the one calling the shots now and if she can't handle it SHE can leave....I wouldn't even give the cheater another chance I would find the hottest girl I could and show up with her one night in front of your ex to prove to her that she ain't the only fruit in the garden.....
2006-12-06 23:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you don't sound like you are ready for the responsibility of family and a home. She was very clear that she wanted you to be home more and help out. You chose to go out and party. Leaving her at home with the kids and all the work. I can see why she cheated. She need someone to be there for her.
2006-12-06 23:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you screwed up by taking her back after the second time she cheated on you.
Once can be a "mistake". Twice isn't.
I'm sorry that your kids are trapped in the middle of this, but she's not worth keeping.
2006-12-07 00:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. But you are foolish to continue this relationship destined for disaster.
To cut to the matter in quick words, both of you should get out of this toxic relationship as soon as possible.
But it sounds like the torture has only just begun.
2006-12-06 23:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋