me and my boyfriend never fight in person but right when he gets home and we get on the phone we bring up stupid things that cause a fight how can i stop the fighting??
2006-12-06 15:24:10 · 17 answers · asked by Jesica<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Choose your battles.
Stop over reaccting,
Communication.
Stop taking things the wrong way.
Dont get easily Anger.
Talk things out.
Look past yourself and look at them for once.
Stop talking about the past.
Learn to be adults, fights will happen, but you have to choose your battles.
2006-12-06 15:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. Don't cut phone conversations, that's stupid. Tell him you wanna stop fighting, and figure out what the real problem is. There's something bothering you that you aren't talking about, and you're arguing about dumb things instead.
2006-12-09 12:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you two are not being who you truly are when you are in person, your trying to be nice to each other even if you know you both have a problem? anyway, you could stop talking on the phone just to avoid the fightings, but it would be better for your relationship, that you talk about it when you meet him in person and try to solve it! Have a great conversation hehe......Goodluck
2006-12-06 15:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose not to bring up those things which cause the fight.
Discuss things a week later,when it isnt a hot issue.
Ask yourself, are we in a mature relationship, or is this more like a highschool drama world.
You know if you should walk away. Fix it in you, and it wont be an issue for you anymore. You will choose not to be with people who can't control themselves.
2006-12-06 15:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by batwanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listed decrease than are some concepts that my spouse and that i take advantage of, in no particular order. a million. under no circumstances swear or call call. consistently teach admire. 2. in case you think of you're too indignant, and might violate #a million, kindly tell the different which you may prefer to quit discussing the subject precise now. walk away (yet supply the guy a time physique. occasion: "i'm very indignant precise now. i will choose for a walk, and we will communicate in 2 hours".) 3. under no circumstances ignore why you're mutually interior the 1st place. 4. in case you recognize which you're in a undesirable temper, tell the guy beforehand. "i'm not interior the superb temper precise now. it is not you. i might delight in in case you basically go away me by myself for a whilst." 5. while the different individual is talking pay attention. there is not any use in ignoring the different individual whilst you think of of yet another answer. It escalates the argument. 6. (An extension of #5) permit the guy communicate without interruption. Then, validate his/her perspective. occasion: "i'm uninterested in choosing up when you. i choose you to start cleansing the sink when you sweep your enamel." "you're indignant because of the fact I make the sink grimy." Then proceed which include your perspective. stable luck. yet another theory: purchase the e book: "do not Sweat the Small Stuff: for Relationships"
2016-12-11 03:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl...i've been in this situation. My ex and I just could not talk on the phone and forget about text messaging. We never could figure out what it was but we just got into the craziest arguments. We just cut the time way down that we spent on the phone...really only called if we had to and it got better.
2006-12-06 15:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney'sMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dROP HIS DUMB A?? AND GET A REAL PERSON AS A BOYFRIEND. lISTEN STUPID GUY LIKE THAT ONLY DO THAT 'CAUSE YOU 1) EITHER LIKE IT
2) PUT UP WITH IT
3) THAT IS A MEANS OF MIND CONTROL;HAVING YOU TO KEEP THEM ON UR MIND
4) IS A PATHETIC F?CK AND DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO TALK TO A WOMAN
Remember this... No one can f?ck with you, f?ck you up,f?ck you over if you don't let them
don't be a spineless jelly-fish,Get a back-bone !!!
love ya ,
jimmy k.
http://www.myspace.com/mrclit
2006-12-06 15:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guy's are afraid to bring things up to each others faces. It's obvious that maturity hasn't set in yet or this type of thing wouldn't happen.
2006-12-06 15:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are the same thats y ur always fighting. you both bring up stupid things.
2006-12-06 15:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone when he calls ;o) or make the conversation shorter so there's no time to start arguing.;o)
2006-12-06 15:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋