hello friends
this might be strange but actually i had an affair with a girl and we too shared intimate relationship but when we went to our parents her parents rejected me on caste grounds
but many of my friends didn't know we broke up .. the girls ppl treated me roughly .. i told all these to my friends except for intimate things most of their words.. i was hurt and disturbed .. so could not hold on more but slowly someone told i am ruining her future with her would be if he knows this through friends
my questions
wat i did is corrrect ?
will it effect girls life ?
wat will her husband reaction be if he comes to know this sometime latter ?
i don't want her to be disturbed more
2006-12-06 15:21:06 · 6 answers · asked by Atulya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dear friend....
Accept the things as they come in ur life, which would stabilize u.
I understand ur gravity of the situation, particularly when it is related to heart. But my friend...are you sure you are interested in her? Ultimately you have to live with the girl whom ever you marry. But You have to convince ur family too. Ofcourse you have to respect the other side but you donot have to give much weightage to the girl's family, if she is really willing to come with you.
U can convince her and win her confidence if u still want her in ur life. Her people trouble u then u have police to control them. Make sure ur age proof.
Donot spread news if u donot want to marry her. if u want to marry her also donot spread the informationto others. it is related to her personality.
God might have sent a better girl than her, otherwise.
All the best.
2006-12-06 15:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one buddy!
First of all, the fact that you even had an affair is wrong.
Second...No what you did is NOT correct. I think it was wrong to broadcast the news. If you feel guilty about it, it is okay that you confess your indiscretion, but not disclose the name of the other person. It should have been her decision whether or not to tell people.
It will DEFINATELY affect her life. In ways that you might not even imagine.
And her husband's reaction to the news could range anywhere from rage to depression. I know it would be better for him to find out from his wife than anyone else.
If you truly want the best for this woman, you need to tell her who you've told about the affair. Apologise. And suggest that she tell her husband before someone else does.
I wish you the best. It sounds like you are a good guy who made some bad decisions.
2006-12-06 15:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by bobthebuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You responded your individual question. that's strictly y a woman doesnt demonstrate her previous. whether the guy accepts her, his kinfolk wont whilst they know...and that they gets issues out of him....approximately her. yet, in recent times, adult men dont demonstrate their pasts the two, because of fact they worry the comparable is genuine if the girl knows approximately their historical past. Plus, men and females human beings will carry their pasts against one yet another whilst fights arise. So that's pointless expertise. unhappy yet genuine.
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2006-12-06 18:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ashok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF NOT FOR HER. NOW YOU DO NOT DO ANY STUPID THING AND MAKE YOUR CARRIER FORGET PAST IF THE GIRL HAS LEFT YOU.
2006-12-06 17:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i say hey do what cha gotta do for u no matter what everyone esle thinks or says
2006-12-06 15:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋