It is not like I hate them. I am going to law school to be a childs rights attorney. I think this is rediculous for people to get upset and try to talk me into having kids. I love kids they are just not for me to have.
2006-12-06 14:58:45 · 23 answers · asked by kareiche 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No, I am not married. I am not saying I don't want to be married but it is not something I am seeking out in my life. If it happens, it happens but it is not on my top priorities list.
2006-12-06 15:11:26 · update #1
I don't think you have to be a parent to care about kids enough to dedicate you life to protecting them. I think that being a child once is enough to do my job and do it well. But thanks for the input even though it seemed a bit ignorant.
2006-12-06 15:54:43 · update #2
People feel the need to tell everyone else how to run their lives even if they are having problems in their own. It's human nature.
As long as you aren't paying out on kids or people that do have kids (sounds like you aren't) then they should be leaving you alone. Same with religion, every one has an opinion and has the right to do what they choose.
I'm having trouble conceiving and all I get is people asking me when I'm starting a family. They make it sound like it's the biggest goal in life for every women. Yes, we want kids and are trying but I don't need people telling me that. I've resorted to telling a few people that we are infertile, yes to get them to shut up. You could try the same. Or just laugh it off and tell them that you'd rather help 100's and 1000's of kids by doing your job or the two or three that you have yourself.
Good luck
2006-12-06 15:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Katie G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well they may have lost a child or may be infertile and consider those capable of having kids a blessing. Children are indeed a blessing, as are you. But just take it as they're sharing their opinion with you. You not wanting to have kids doesnt make you any less of a decent human being. We all have reasons why we say and do certain things, and people may not always agree with them, but as long as we beleive in ourselves the entire while through, I say go for it. And if you change your mind, then great, and if still not, then thats great too. You know what type of person you are. The world probably would be better off if there were some people who thought like you before they decided to get pregnant, even if it was by accident (except for rape cases). Even though I do want kids one day, I support your decision, and will always support it even if you change your mind or keep it the same because you know what you want and you have your reasons for wanting it. You go, girl!
2006-12-06 15:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by www.verytruehonesty.ws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a career goal
You have made a closed ended statement
Most people know that over time points of view change
They are not offended by your choice - but your limited
view of the future.
Try saying "not at this time in my life" due to my plans and see if
people respond differently. Of course there are alway morons out there you can not make see your point of view.
Also are you married? If so does your spouse want kids?
2006-12-06 15:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people should do whatever they want in their lives in terms of children, but my experience is that most of those 20 & 30 something women who do not want kids, when they start feeling like their eggs are drying up, they get nervous and try to have kids. Also somebody mention that we are overpopulated, the reality is that is the biggest myth ever, SOME countries are overpopulated like India and many places in Africa, but other are underpopulated or the population is aging too fast like japan, eastern & western europe. In the states if it wasn't for immigration, we will be in a difficult spot already, how are you going to support the baby boomers if women here are having so few kids or aborting them. But again it is really up to you to do whatever you want
2006-12-06 15:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by malk e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do these people think that it's "a good thing" for someone who doesn't want children to have them??? The problem is with them and not with you. Next time someone asks if you plan to have kids turn it around and ask them why they want to know!
I got married when I was 18 and was with him for 9 years and during that time I had NO DESIRE to have kids. When I married my second husband I realized that now that I was with the right man I really did want children.
2006-12-06 15:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by RoZ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with wanting or not wanting children. They are a big responsibility and they become number one in a persons life.
I have no idea why some people think it's heartless. That's ridiculous.
Stay true to yourself and you'll always be going in the right direction. Good luck in law school and keep your chin up.
2006-12-06 15:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeap,but I don't get such treatment when I told people I don't want kid,they just said that I still too young and I will change my mind when I get older.For me,its not a problem,there are still a lot of people who are stereotype and said a marriage/family without children is incomplete,there a lot of couple divorced even though they have children and children also contribute to stress.
I will never change my mind because I know what I want and need in my life.Children is not gonna exist in my future.
2006-12-06 16:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made a wise choice not having children. Take a look at the children of your friends and acquaintances.How many of them have the qualities you would like to see in a child of your own. I would bet only a small percentage. This is not necessarily the parents fault, there are too many influences in their lives outside home and it seems to me these are not good times to raise children. Geez! I hope I'm not getting cynical.
2006-12-06 15:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by luther 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because peole haven't dropped that whole "it's a woman's role to give birth thing"
I think it is great because too many woman have kids when they should be the last person with a kid. Not to say that you are a bad person. It's good that you are honest and you are taking care of you.
2006-12-06 15:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Koko Butta Kream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh screw them...what whoever thinks doesnt really change anything. A thing that struck me as ironic is your going to be fighting for childrens rights when you wont know what its like to be a parent.
Good view on the marriage thing. Throws a huge wrench in schooling and trying to become established. Best to wait...
2006-12-06 15:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋