My mom passed away five years ago shortly after Christmas when I was 18 years old. I really sorely miss my mom. She was a great woman, and I feel cheated because she died before I graduated high school etc. For the longest time, she was the only person I can count on and certainly she was my best friend. I want to do something very thoughtful to mark the five years since she passed. Also, a sister whom I greatly loved passed away five years ago November and I would want to do something thoughtful as well for her. Please any advice or suggestions would greatly be appreciated. Thank you in advance.
2006-12-06 14:57:32 · 11 answers · asked by Maria Gallercia 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I'm sorry to hear your pain. I'd agree that donating to a charity in your mom's name would be a good idea. What causes interested her? Donate to something she'd have wanted to be part of. Do the same, if you can, for your sister, too.
In addition, if there's a traditional Catholic Church nearby, go light a candle for each of them sometime during the holiday season -- even if you're not Catholic! I'm not, and I've been greatly comforted by this tradition when I've lost loved ones. Make a small donation in the box near the candles. It goes to help the needy (as well as to help pay for the candles.) The church should be open at most times; it's best if you go at a time when they're not having services. Then there's time that you can just go pray, too. That always helps.
I'm sure your mom and your sister had friends. Is there anything you can do for one of their friends? Tell her you're doing it because you know your mom (or your sister) would have wanted to do it herself if she'd still been here. That's a good way to honor a memory.
2006-12-06 15:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by thejanith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss, I lost my best friend (mama) Feb.15, 2004 and I still cry and want to pick up the phone and talk to her. We have a park where you can buy stones in memory engraved to stay in the park forever, we have another park that puts up Christmas trees in the park in memory with a sign and you decorate as you want. I have seen people buy a church bench with a plaque on the end in memory engraved. You can buy a large to medium rock and engrave both your mom and sister and put a poem or saying that is from them, put it in your yard and plant around it with winter flowers and change out flowers during the summer ( a out side stone bench you can do the same) and all year you can look out there and remember. You can always donate to a charity in their name, maybe one that helps give children who would not have a Christmas have a wonderful one. You can do something like but a engraved stone bench at their grave site to sit on while you bring flowers(if you live near by). I think I could go on & on but you might get bored or not like any of them, I just miss my mama (2004) & daddy (1991) so much at this time. Whatever you do it will be a good thing to do.
2006-12-06 15:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could make a donation in her name to a charity.
Or perhaps write her a letter and leave it on her grave, and then in the spring, plant a tree in memory of her. You could even get a plaque that reads "in Loving memory of ______ (mom's name)
Just an idea. I feel your pain, and hope your heart will mend soon. Just think of all the great times, and smile at the great possiblity that she is watching over you all the time now.
2006-12-06 15:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rosebee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay here is what i would do just my suggestion okay. I always have a shrine to people in my family that have pased on in life to a better one. It has thier pictures and candles and I even put a tree up thier with prayers tied up on it. dont think i am crazy but I love talking with my deceased family memebers it makes me feel better. I practice wicca so it brings me more intact with my loved ones whom have passed away. Like everyone has been saying get a plaque in her name have it at the grave or were u live. Plant a tree. Donate moeny to a good foundation maybye one ure mother like also. Keep her memoray alive just cause someone is dead and passed away doesnt mean they still are totally gone thier spirt is with u. Dont ever feel like ure alone ure mother is always with you. Well hope I was of some help. I did for my friend I set up a plaque at my house with her name on it and it has a palce to put flowers and we go out thier and leave letters and cards and beautiful flowers for different hoildays and season. And also the place i have in the house for passed loved ones with her pictures and I always know she is close by my side. Also send in a little money threw out the year to feed the homeless. Just different stuff like that.
2006-12-06 15:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by baby_blueeyed_girl_2005 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is hard--I've lost my mom, sister and brother (my brother most recently last December, my sister 5 years before in December). I usually donate in their name to a charity. I have to admit tho it's a private little personal thing for me. My brother loved Christmas, last year I didn't do much, this year the house is decorated to the hilt, my sister and Mom also loved Christmas so I'm pulling out all their cookie and candy recipes, making them, and giving them as gifts. I don't know really. I give to our local Cancer Society.
2006-12-06 15:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find a charity that helps fight what caused your mom's death and if your sister died of cancer or something like that make a donation to the American Cancer Society. I lost both of my folks in '92 so I can understand how you feel and it is wonderful of you to want to do something in their memories.
2006-12-07 01:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give to a charity in her name. My sister died of breast cancer and was in hospice. I try to give to hospice as much as I can,and always in her name. My mother is gone also and I try to have the Christmas party every year and cook and celebrate the way she did. She would be pleased to know that her family still ges together for the holidays. MERRY CHRISTMAS !!!
2006-12-07 01:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could pick a charity (or 2) that your mom and sister would have supported and donate in their names. If you belong to a church you could have a mass or service said in their names.
Give of yourself to honor them.....Adopt a family or volunteer your time at a shelter or soup kitchen and do it in their name
2006-12-06 15:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by ohsgal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do no longer stress your self into attempting to coach honor or coach your love or dispell your grief. stay your life besides as you may, as your mom's might have needed. Spend mom's day alongside with your terrific pal, for time spent with somebody is the terrific present achievable.
2016-10-14 04:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a donation to a charity in their names? I am sorry about your loss.
2006-12-06 15:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by joanna_anna7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋