I want him and my brother to know what they did to me, i want them to know about the emotional scars they've left for me to deal with, and the nightmares, but i'm scared to confront them. Please, will some one tell me how to confront my fears?
2006-12-06 14:38:08 · 18 answers · asked by Perfectly Insane 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
One thing i've always had luck in life with was being fearless. And direct, meaning i always tell people what i think when they ask me.
Then again i've never had to deal with what has happened to you.
I want you to analyse yourself for a second and think very carefully what it is you are afraid of...
If you need direction i think that perhaps you are afraid of the emotional pain. You are afraid that they will not care at all what they have done to you. You are afraid that they would hurt you again wihtout second thought.
Well i say 'how could this fear of pain be worse than the agony of never confronting them?'. I dont want you to suffer any longer, you need some closure to this. I truly believe that the pain in you will continue, until you change it as much as possible, and hopefully for the better.
Ratoinalise however you must, but try in your head to come to the conclusion that confronting them would be better than trying to ignore these feelings.
I wish i could just do all of this for you. And i wish it were over so that you could move on...
If you wanna talk som more just mail me :)
2006-12-06 16:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen Ryan my dad did some pretty awful things to me when i was little to and i will carry those scars with me always. I told myself that one day i was going to confront him....I never got a chance to he commit ed suicide about 5 years ago now. I am 36 years old. I have forgiven my dad but i wish i had had that chance to talk to him about it. I know it's going to be hard but try to talk to him now...time is short on this earth .....get it off your chest your mind and your heart it may be the only way you can make peace with what happened to you. But please don't do it alone. I am afraid it might get ugly when you confront him. Make sure you have someone there you know and can trust. God bless you honey and i will pray for peace of mind for you.
2006-12-06 14:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by naomihank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL THE POLICE....if that dont work get a gun the rest is up to you but, really arent you the kid shouldnt you be in school or something they got people there and if its some bs about them not letting you stay up on yahoo pass ten then shut up and be a kid do what your parents tell you
2006-12-06 14:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by dumbasapost6869 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it down, it's great therapy and keeps things from getting too emotional or confrontational. Take as much time as you need, add and change as you see fit. YOU NEED THIS; do not let them take anything else away from you.
2006-12-06 14:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost your safety is all that counts
if they did the nasty with you, you need to tell the police..really you do, and you need to do it now. and be truthful and honest and tell them everything, ask for female officers to handle the case....please go now and tell the police
if it was not, then you need to talk to them and straighten out what ever it is that is bothering you
unless they have molestedd you in any way, then stay away from them do not talk to them, because if you try to they may moleste you again, let me tell you this, they will never stop doing it if you do not stop them by going to the police, I have had cases that the family even kept hurting their female family member even after she got married and had her own children, then they started hurting her children too..you do not want his to happen, and you need it to stop now..
go to the police
good luck
2006-12-07 03:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ryan, hunny...
Just do it.... They SHOULD know what kind of animal he was. They should know the hell he put you through...
Most of all... it is important that they know this so your dad is not ever left alone with children...
I would scrape together every last bit of emotional energy you have and just do it.... expose him for what he is, and what he did.
Good luck hun...
2006-12-06 14:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
youve got to get it out in the open, if it takes them a while to get over it then tough, just think obout how long youve been dealing with it. chances are if you have brothers you feelings are not alone
2006-12-06 14:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by storminnormin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could always try writing it in a letter and go out while they read it. That works for me, because when you get back they know how you feel, and sometimes they write you a letter back.
2006-12-06 14:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Ettejin of Wern 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not trying to mock you or offend you but y not try dr. phil?
i watch his shows and i think he is pretty good. maybe he can help bcos he's helped several pple with cases similar to yours
goodluck and be strong
=)
2006-12-06 14:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what they have done and if you still live with them or not. i personally would just tell them flat out what has happened but have a friend there with me for support.
2006-12-06 14:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋