my woman left me about three weeks ago......she says it's over no matter what i say or do. we have two kids and i really miss my family. anyone have any ideas on what i can do to get her back? p.s. we didn't split up over cheating or anything that serious. just tired of me saying i'll do things and change and me not doing it pretty much. says she's been done with me for a while.....what can i do?
2006-12-06 14:37:26 · 32 answers · asked by just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TKO, its over. She realized that she was thru with you a long time ago. She just waited to have kids for child support. Women are scandalous, when are the rest of you guys gonna figure this out? Stop whinning, you have been had. Let it alone, move on. People do not change, young people hope, older ones are convinced. Learn from your mistake, the next time a woman even suggest that you need to change, drop her like a hot potato, she will once she has built up the nerve or financial security she needs to be on her own! Not a chick, but I know them well!
2006-12-06 14:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Try doing everything she ask you do to quickly. Suprise her. Ask her out on a date. Say really nice comments to her and be honest tell her you was an inconsiderate butthead and you are sorry and you will change your ways. But only if you really will, cause if you don't then pretty much you would be lying.
Go to her house and when she answers the door tell her how you feel. And beg her to come back and give you 1 week to show her you really love her, you want your marriage and you are very sorry for being selfish.
2006-12-06 14:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by changing those things you are aware of that need changing, And if she loves you and is not using that as an excuse to be with someone she has been seeing on the side, You might just need to give her some time... Good Luck.
2006-12-06 14:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can start by being a man or your word. Why would you say you will do something and not do it? Be a man of honour. Sometimes it takes a kick in the butt, ie her leaving, to get a person to see the light. If you want your family back, I suggest while you are waiting, you start changing. She's tired of your bull. Ask her what you can do to make it right. You already know she wants you to do as you say you will.
2006-12-06 14:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you can't live up to the words you say then why are you making those empty promises? You know breaking a promise is like a sign saying that you don't care. if you love her then you should change for her. But for a woman to say it's over then i can feel that she already have enough of you. She's been let down so many times that she just want to give up on you.
2006-12-06 14:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by smile 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Women definitely get frustrated and when they see no other way to make a point leaving usually does the trick. I wouldn't just do the things she's been asking you to do but go beyond that and do things that you know need to be done and then go a little further and do something unexpected for her that you know she will like. Shes upset but if she loves you she'll calm down eventually and hopefully if she sees you doing these things it will be sooner than later.
2006-12-06 14:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am not sure i know most women when we make our minds up its made up. but i would show her you have changed. maybe something you said you was going to do. how about do it. show her you want everything to work out for her and you both and mostly for the children, good luck with everything. without knowing what you didn't do its kinda hard to answer this question. cause some things you cant take back.
2006-12-06 14:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by KAT2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll may possibly realize she should have stayed with you after her 4th husband. I know that doesn't help you now, but women are emotional and many divorces(and marriages) are based on emotions. Women don't need men as much anymore for financial reasons and now divorces are so much higher, because it's usually based on emotions.
Are you sure there isn't another guy? Most women hang on to one branch before they get to the next. They also like to use excuses of why they're cheating to make themselves feel better about themselves, like blaming it on you.
2006-12-06 14:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Will she go to counseling with you? She must learn to believe you again. Hope you still get to see the children. Try to be supportive and a friend to her again. Try to show her you really care and want to be supportive. Say your sorry and show it. Your split up was not something bad. Did you ever ask her what you could do to get her back? Did you tell her you love her? Good Luck.
2006-12-06 14:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by vennie s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is using that as a lame excuse to divorce you? She obviously doesn't love you anymore, or she would want to work on the marriage. You are better off just moving on with your life. Get joint custody of your kids and move on.
2006-12-06 15:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋