2006-12-06 14:33:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a case to case basis. Generally speaking, I believe it takes as much courage to divorce somebody as it would in getting married. Both scenarios open doors to the unknown.
2006-12-06 14:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay - here's a questions for you! Do you think it's chicken to get a divorce if one of the people in the relationship is beating up the other one? How about if one of the parents is beating the children? What about if the other one is cheating on the other one? And, how about if one of them doesn't come home for days on end, not having any explanation on where they have been? How about this one - one of the partners has no job, lays around on the couch, doesn't lift a finger all day, then goes out in the evening with his so-called "buddies", while the other person works 3 jobs and takes care of the kids, does the housework and pays the bills? Now, do you think it's still a "chicken thing" to get a divorce?
2006-12-06 14:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many cases why people end in divorce and it's not all because someone didn't think before getting married. For most when you marry someone you marry them for the person you think they are when in reality they are not that person. If someone continues to cheat on you would you want to stay married to that person? If someone is abusing you would you want to stay in that marriage? Sure there is counseling but then again in order for it to work it takes both and in a lot of cases only one is willing to do as they can to hold the marriage together when in reality it will not work with just one spouse doing it all. If a couple wants a marriage to work then they both will work at it otherwise it will fail. So no I defiantly wouldn't call someone who gets a divorce a chicken.
2006-12-06 14:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well being a divorcee I may be a little biased but I think getting a divorce is one of the hardest things a person will ever have to do. It takes a lot of strength to accept that the person you planned on spending the rest of your life with is quite simply not the right person for you or that the marriage you worked so hard to make last isn't going to last. The people who say divorce is for chickens obviously haven't had to go through a divorce. Making a marriage work takes a ton of work but accepting that it's not going to work despite all your work takes a whole lot of guts.
2006-12-06 14:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that is pretty narrow minded. I think that yes, there are times when that may be true. However, there are situations that require a break, such as abuse, addiction, or adultery. When we make a blanket statement such as the one you did, you open yourself up for crticism and unkind words.
I value my marriage vows and was faithful honest and true. However my husband did not share the same feelings and decided to seek the company of young (14-16) girls. What possible choice did I have? Do you think I was a chicken for divorcing him?
I challenge you to think of situations such as mine when making a statement such as this in the future.
There is an old indian saying,"Never judge a man till you have walked a mile in his mocassins."
2006-12-06 14:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the situation. If the couple is just having little problems and they divorce then yes they are being cowards and trying to run away. But if you really love each other you will work it out. If one of the people in the marriage does something totally unforgivable then no they aren't a chicken. if my husband ever cheated on me i would defiently leave him there is absolutely no excuse for that . But ever things else i made a vow to stand by him through SICKNESS and health.
2006-12-06 14:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some marriages are just no meant to be.
I know for a fact, I'd rather be separted/divorced and happy, than stay in a loveless marriage miserable when I know theres my soulmate out there somewhere.
To say people who divorce are "chickens" is a pathetic description, they are smart because they know their relationship is going no where & they'd be much more happy with someone else.
2006-12-06 14:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well that somebody is a fool i think it takes a brave and strong person to be able to admit their marriage isn't right for what ever reason. you only get one go at life so why would you stay in an unhappy marriage, that isn't saying that you just give up, but to give something up that at one stage made you so very happy and know that it is the right thing wouldn't be an easy decision.
2006-12-06 14:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by nell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents got divorced when i was younger and now i am glad they did. i dont think they are chickens. they just fell apart pretty much. they were young getting married and kinda pressured into it. but if a couple is not getting along there is no need to stay together cause all that might do is have more fighting and maybe create violance so i dont think if u are getting a divorce that u are a chicken.
2006-12-06 14:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by kaity_cutie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally disagree with this comment.
I believe that sometimes it takes the stronger person to know when a relationship has run it's course and to have the courage to make the break.
It's breaking my heart watching two people I know who absolutely loved each other in the past allowing that love to turn to hate because neither one has the courage to end it.
2006-12-06 14:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋