2006-12-06 13:56:24 · 22 answers · asked by Ryan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I mean I don't think it is a healthy thing to do for the children's sake. You want to teach them marriage is about love not just convenience for the kids. I would move out and move on. You can still be a great dad even with a different address. Good luck to you!
2006-12-06 13:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly depends on how you both act around the children. Fighting and arguing while the kids are around is the worst, very worst thing you can do.It will only teach them to handle things with anger. I cannot imagine being separate as husband and wife without some kind of tension in the room, first some snie little remarks then name calling then a full blown fight. If your children are older, explain to them sometimes people fall out of love and don't make good spouses, but you will always be the best parent you can be. Good luck and give your kids a hugh hug.
2006-12-06 22:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always put your children first, but in this case I believe both of you deserve happiness. If there is arguing or ignoring each other I think this is far worse for the kids. Sometimes reality is hard to handle especially for kids. If you two are this mature about protecting your kids now why can't you work out the details of the custody and visitation prior to having a court battle. It seems as if you both want to do the right thing.
On the other hand if the house is truly a homey atmosphere and it is working for you both then best of luck to you both.
God Bless and keep your kids first
2006-12-06 22:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good thing, you are sacrificing for your children its commendable especially in this day and age when parents make choices w/o thinking about the children and the children suffer the most. As long as you are not traumatizing your kids by fighting every day, what kid does not want to have access to both their parents and have the stability of everyone under one roof. Besides you said you are separated not divorced so who knows as long as the two of you are under the same roof maybe there will be a chance of reconcilation which would be even better.
2006-12-06 22:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going to happen if one or the other meets someone you are really interested in. I don't think someone else would like the idea of the one they're seeing living with their separated spouse. I'd think eventually if one meets someone else they will want to get their own place, so all it seems your doing is putting off what will end up happening in time anyways. Unless you decide to work through your problems and stay together I can not see that this would actually be good on the kids.
2006-12-06 22:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are the children. I thinks its a bad thing especially if either of you start dating. If the children are young it is harder to explain. Try moving close by and seeing them as much as possible obviously you 2 are still getting along or you wouldnt still live with each other so for a whie if you move try having dinner with each other and watchin movies until they understand it better..really i know ppl that stayed together for the kids and it was not a good thing !!!!
2006-12-06 21:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called mothergoose the house, when a couple is separate, working on getting a divorce, in most cases, for both couples to have joint custody, and not have to pay the child support, and the best interest for the kids are at heart. Most judges will approved this arrangement along there are guidelines for the parents to behave and not bringing boyfriends and girlfriends of dating in the house with the kids.
So if you are doing this, maybe you guys can work on reconcilation and retry your marriage on a go for yes!!!!
It would be so much at best interest for the children, when mom's and dad's work on the best interest for the kids, get along with each other and high respect for each other.
I wished the family the best, and hope that your marriage will and can be restored for the children's sake and yours!!!!
2006-12-06 22:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not, it not only confises the children as to why mommy and daddy live together but are not together...it also makes it worse on them when the 2 of u fight even if u dnt think they see or hear it they do,it messes them up mentally im sure u are both great parents and the kids are great to and if u want ther best for them then live in seperate homes, let them chose whom they want to live with...be patient and understanding if they chose the opposit parent to live with ,dont smack talk the other...and just look out for the children...get into a enw relationshiop if yoru ready but make sure ur kids know they come before the one ur in a relationship with... good luck...and remember ur kids are great kids.
2006-12-06 22:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children know what is up. If your lives are not going to be joined by love, then do not show your kids what a loveless life is like. Move on to new ground. In the end, the kids will benefit from you having the strength to do what is right.
2006-12-06 22:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends are you both seeing other people, then it can becaome confusing. I mean if your not happy with yur wife then its just time to move on your probably confusing the kids more by staying together the way that you are. Either that one of you is still holding onto the realtionship and is using this as a way to still hold on good luck
2006-12-06 22:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋