well im preg in due on dec 16 im hurting alittle and my husband wants to have sex but i tell him no but he gets mad at me but he really dont understand because he is not the one is preg i am and i just dont understand man and why are they like this.
2006-12-06 13:46:03 · 28 answers · asked by lori7642 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
because your husband is a selfish pig that is putting his needs before anyone elses.
your right...some men don't understand, but then some men just don't care! and that is sad.
which is he?
if he doesn't care...you may have problems later in this marriage.
if he doesn't understand perhaps a birthing and parenting class could help him "get it".
edited: to poster above. sex does NOT hurt the baby. but it does make a sore pregnant mother feel worse when she is not enjoying it!
2006-12-06 13:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You don't have that long to go before you're delivery, so it's no wonder you don't want to have sex. That is entirely normal.
If your husband loves you, he will respect your wishes and not pressure you for sex - whether he understands or not. The same goes for after the baby is born.
You will need time to heal after the delivery and he needs to be considerate. It can take 6 weeks to heal - longer if you have torn or have had an episiotomy.
By the way, the healing isn't just physical. Many women suffer from Post-partum depression, and that can also negatively affect women's sex drive, too.
You might want to get your husband some information to help him understand. Information is available on-line or from your doctor, midwife, or health centre. Good luck.
Try this: http://www.whattoexpect.com/public/sex-and-love.aspx
2006-12-06 14:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by medimom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am due pretty soon too and sometimes I hurt down there. Bt I don't have the problem of him being insecure. If I can't have sex cuz of pain, then I just tell him I want to mess around. You can use your imagination for this one. He just feels left out and some guys just don't understand.
Like if I am in pain anywhere else and I telll my husband, he seems like he doesn't care. That frustrates me a lot. But anyways, still make him feel like a man.
Good luck with your baby!!
2006-12-06 13:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by aloha69_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts and you don't want to then don't
let him know you are not turned on at all because you are hurting tell him to try and get up while you are jugging him with something sharp and see if he can stay hard
although he maybe going through a jealous stage and wants attention too maybe ou are spoiling him too much going to be hard spoiling him when that baby comes .............. really it is all about you i have 5 and if you dont make it all about you no one else will good luck and congradulations ooh and make sure he takes a good look down there when the baby head comes out maybe he will get it then MY HUSBAND DID ........oouch
2006-12-06 13:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your cute belly in the picture! I miss being pregnant.
Tell your husband to grab a bowling ball, stick it up his shirt, and carry it day and night. While he's doing that, he is also to inject himself with a large dose of female hormones and still be smiling and supportive. And if you don't feel like being that drastic, then perhaps letting him know that right now, it can't be all about him, might be a better solution
If you are due Dec 16th, I wouldn't recommend sex. There are articles you can show him online, on wwww.babycenter.com, or even in "What to Expect When You're Expecting" that address sex near the due date/9th month. Also, if you're hurting, it's NEVER a good idea, no matter how pregnant or even non-pregnant you are.
Early congrats sweetie! I love my little bundle of joy, babies are fun ( after 1st month!!)
2006-12-06 13:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men will never understand what it's like - it hurts like hell and they just have no clue. But trust me - have him watch your baby when s/he comes into the world and that will give him a whole new perspective on what it means to be a woman. It won't change him begging for sex usually, lol, but usually they realize how much we do for the sake of having a baby and back off a bit. I was lucky enough that my DH never pressured me and it was actually me who kept trying - hurt like hell but I know semen helps to soften the cervix which can help get labor going..lol.. I was desperate..lol. but my daughter finially arrived on week 41 and all was well and DH was basically amazed. His first words when he saw her was "wow, eww"..lol.
Oh, and I wanetd to add - I rented videos at the library - labor of love and some natural birth one where we watched 5 women give birth naturally. That sure turned him off for a while..lol.. especialy since the birth one had a lady with a mustache and un-shaven armpits..lol.
2006-12-06 13:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rae T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex throughout the pregnancy is safe (I did the entire time, but it was something I wanted), however, if this is something you don't feel comfortable doing, he should respect your wishes. Just wait until you have the baby and have to wait a while to have sex... he'll want you even more then from the anticipation of not being able to. Tell him to back off and respect your wishes.
Goodluck and congrats.
2006-12-06 13:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god this made me cry, and that i do no longer cry basic. Sweetie, i'm SO sorry he did that to you. Yeah, he have been given chilly ft, he have been given frightened of issues he thought ought to happen interior the destiny that he did no longer choose to handle. go over there once you already know he would be residing house and ask him what he thinks a mature to blame grownup is. do no longer take any guff some to blame individual understanding while to get out, it relatively is basically a lame excuse, and a lie besides. do no longer enable him go - even nonetheless you already suggested you may. go get him lower back. do no longer enable his concern destroy all your lives. Get counseling even. attempt each thing you may, because of the fact a stable existence with a stable guy is well worth scuffling with something for, even him.
2016-10-04 23:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by dunkelberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went through this too, then it would make me mad and I definetly wasn't having sex with him then! Your first priority right now is to take care of that baby, and if he can't understand that then he can sleep on the couch! (Ok that may be a little extreme, but you get my point) LOL Good Luck to you.
2006-12-06 13:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the baby - I'm also due on the 16th of December and can kind of relate to how you're feeling. Although I still want to have sex, it's uncomfortable and awkward... Not fun. Maybe discussing this issue with him and your doctor will help?
2006-12-06 14:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to quit being so freaking selfish. and if he refuses to be a little more sensitive then just let him be mad. Absolutely don't have sex if it hurts. it hurts for a reason, so don't make it worse. it might even hurt the baby. i mean if your arm was broken you wouldn't move it around or poke at it, this would make it hurt worse. we have pain for a reason; to tell us there is something wrong. Sometimes you've just got to do what is best for you, and always do what is best for the baby.
2006-12-06 13:59:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋