we are married for 8 years....he says we need to spice things up........he is telling we can work this out...and hes only willing me to get open..i need to talk about this with the ppl who have experience.....please help....my id-jessy_reeds@yahoo.com
2006-12-06 13:39:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. This can only lead to healthy and positive things in your relationship. Go for it!
2006-12-06 13:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, this is your home also. And we are in 2007... So I would suggest talking to him and letting know STRAIGHT UP that this does not sound so good to you. Is he realizing that you both will have to get up every morning, possibly change her diapers many times a day, someone has to be home all of the time to make sure she has food, water and company. This is a full time job. I know because I took care of my husbands
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A marriage is between a man and a woman only.If he want to have sex with other women or let you do it too, (open relationships,swingers,cheating,etc)_that is never a marriage.That will be, to live in completely liberty (doing each other,whatever they want).For that kind of" open relationships",You do not need to be married.Single people do,because they have not compromises with nobody.A marriage with open relationships,is never indeed a marriage.Thousands of couples,who started to practise open relationships,always finish in getting divorce,or in a open practise of prostitution inside the marriage.I know many friends who started opens relationships,and now, some of them, are divorced,and others paying the consequences of to have a woman or a men who is cheating everywhere with plenty liberty.This is a serious matters,with serious consequences.All is up to you.But really is never a good idea even try,or thinking about it.Do not destroy your marriage.If he want,is better for you get divorce;and find a really good men,with moral values;and knowing indeed what the word marriage mean.All is up to you.Think good,good luck.Good question.
2006-12-06 14:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, been there and done that. It's a horrible lifestyle that can open to door to destroying trust in each other, and could lead you down a path to a divorce, I suggest that you sit down and talk about yourselves. Bringing someone else into your bed may seem exciting at first, but after a while, it's not going to be good enough, and either you or him will want more and more. And it will never satisfy or be enough. Just stay away from it. An open marriage is just a way to justify cheating.
2006-12-06 14:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it you'll regret it. Question his reason for this.
Spice up what? Are you willing to try new things, if so
then what does he want? If he wants more, let him go and
find someone else. I will say from experience if he is wanting an open marriage then he is already cheating on you. Get out as fast as you can.It doesn't work this way and it is proven
many times. Sometimes you just got to let go. You are the good person and above such actions. Look at Brit and KFed. Who needs that.........
2006-12-06 13:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be part of an adulterous marriage? Nothing good will come from it. Your marriage will no longer glorify God and be blessed. There will be nothing but trouble for you if you go along with this. I suggest you go to marriage counseling together. If he can't respect you enough to honor you and your marriage vows then maybe he is not the man you thought he was.
2006-12-06 14:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the politically correct way, your husband is asking you for permission to cheat on you. he is having guilt issues because if he didi not, he would have already went out and gotten his. it is time to reevaluate your relationship with your husband and just sit down and talk. there are other ways to spice up a relationship rather than bringing someone else into a marriage
2006-12-06 13:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by silentasalamb 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wants to have other women. You don't "spice things up" with someone you're not married to!!! I do believe in your wedding vows you might have heard . . . " . . . . forsaking all others, till death do you part" Time to get out of there. He needs help.
2006-12-06 13:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theoretically, everyone is in an open relationship. I am married and I want to have sex with other women. But I choose not to. But I can.
2006-12-06 14:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO NO NO there are many ways to spice up your sex live without involving other people. do you want to have sex with other people in front of your husband? read some books and start doing your own spicing.
2006-12-06 13:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋