i had to share for over 2 years,never just mine
2006-12-06 13:39:42 · 17 answers · asked by paultoledo2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you always had to share her for 2 yrs ,then she was never your wife anyway,it's always hard to walk away ,when you love your wife/husband and they have betrayed you by cheating,I say leave when you know you have done everything to make your marriage
work,when you know you can't do anything else then leave.
trust me it killed me to leave my husband when he cheated on me,but I knew I had to do it,remember time has a way of healing everything,I feel for you,been there,done that,but I'm much happier now,and you will be happier also,find someone who really loves you and respects you
good luck :)
2006-12-06 13:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by msalb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, its hurtful when the person you love cheats on you, your ego is bruised your relationship lacks of trust for that person but if you love her, I personally, wouldn't leave(divorce). I would ask questions, why she cheated, do she feel like there is something missing from your relationship that she got from someone else? I think when women cheat its more about an emotional need that is not being met. Maybe some counseling will help to facilitate this discussion. You might want to separate for a little while, I would assume that she loves you b/c she married you, but maybe you need to give her some space or time to miss you, that will make her appreciate you and what she has in you and remember the things that drew her to you in the first place.
Ultimately though it takes two to make a relationship work, so if she is willing to work on the problems and change her behavior then you should follow through on your vow to stay with her for better or worse. Hopefully this is the worst and it gets better for you.
2006-12-06 22:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say RUN don't walk away. How can you possibly love someone who does that to you. She obviously can't feel anything good for you other then you are the biggest fool in the world. Pick yourself up buddy, kick that woman to the curb fast, a really deserving someone is missing a lot of life with you. The longer you wait, the more you will miss. Life and good love are out there for you, go get it.
2006-12-06 21:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to grab your stuff, take a deep breath and walk, and for God sakes don't look back. It will hurt, you will cry, but you will heal and get over it. You migth go back and you might not, but you need to stop being a door mat, and move on. Good Luck, if your every in far west TX, meet you at the bar and the first drink is on me, but thats it only drinks. But I can set you up with a few good looking ladies I know, just to ease the pain..
2006-12-06 21:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she has an integrity issue. It has nothing to do with problems, desire or attraction. Her charactor is flawed and even if she were with someone else she would still cheat. Treat yourself to a good girl with some integrity and stop wasting your time enabling a person with a charactor deficit. Don't want to be harsh--let's just be real about it.
And take care of you.
2006-12-06 21:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply pack my things open the door and go! cheating more than once is totally unforgivable and since she has done it several times you need to leave ! staying I think would torment you terribly! In time you will find someone very special so don't waste anymore time just go! good luck!
2006-12-06 21:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by sicilyuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very easy my friend. You put one foot in front of the other. Just like you're walking out the door, or down the hall, or to the bathroom, or to go to bed . . . you WALK AWAY. As far away as you can.
2006-12-06 21:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go on with my life and let her go. she is not for you any more. she has defiled her body with other men and she is no longer clean. she is dirty.you deserve better and there are other women out there who would treat you better.you sound like a man who is compassionate in love. be kind to yourself and go on with your life. be happy and dont look back. close the door to this woman who is dirty. you are going to get a disease that you cant fight one day if you stay with her.
2006-12-06 21:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place stop calling her your wife!!!She's a pleasure palace.It's time to grow up now and find yourself a real women.Relax it'll be ok,Trust me
2006-12-06 21:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by charles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pack your stuff and you leave. Just like everything else in life, you will get over it. Sucks, I know, but you will live.
2006-12-06 21:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋