is it bad for my 11 year old cousin?

Question

my aunt hits ma cousin swears at her and insults her and ignores her and does not sometimes does not feed her dinner! is that child abuse AND SHE IS ONLY 11 YEARS OLD!

Answer 1

That sounds pretty abusive to me. She shouldn't hit her own child. That is just wrong. I don't think child deserves to be hit. She she sometimes doesn't feed her dinner, that is completely wrong. If she thinks she is disciplining her, I would Say she is torturing her. She is getting abused and i think your aunt might need help!

hope I helped.

Shawna. =)

Answer 2

This is definitely child abuse. Do your cousin a favor and contact family services or child protective services and report your observations. They will look into it. If any thing your aunt will realize that she will have to answer to someone and give better care of your cousin. Every child deserves to have 3 meals a day and to not be the recipient of verbal and physical abuse. If you really care about your cousin you will make the call. They won't have to tell your aunt who made the report. Try calling from school or a friends cell phone.

You can also go to your school Principal or counselor or nurse and tell them that you would like help reporting about your cousin because you are so worried about her safety and well being since she is not fed regularly.

Answer 3

It depends on to what degree. If it is a light smack on the hand is what you called a hit than no its not abuse. If she yells at her and insults her because she is backtalking, then it is not abuse, it is retaliation from a insolant child.
It could be her form of discipline even though it may not be working.
As far as ignoring her, you cant ignore her and insult her at the same time. Its one or the other. If she is eleven and is told her punishment is to have no dinner if she doesnt listen, she should learn to listen. If it is that the aunt doesnt cook everynight, it seems that she is old enough to learn to cook or make a sandwich.
There are two sides to every story. Thats why they have court rooms.

Answer 4

If you know this for a fact, this is definitely a problem. A child of 11 years old does not deserve this kind of treatment. Call the Child Services Division in your area and let them take it from there. If you don't know who to contact, talk to perhaps someone from her school and tell them the story. They should be able to check on the situation and report this to the proper authorities. I know you'll probably get better advice from a more realiable source as far as reporting these events, but try to be proactive to protect your cousin's safety and well being. You are a really strong person and can follow through. Your cousin's safety can depend on you.

Answer 5

Hello,

I am Sheila. I have worked in the education business for a long time. I need you to read my questions and comments carefully and answer and consider them honestly.

You said that she hits her, is this a tap or swat on the bottom or is she getting slapped and hit in anger and in an abusive mannor?

Abuse is hitting out of anger or a loss in temperment and it is not just a swat. It doesnt even have to leave brusing, but if it is being done out of anger and out of control, you have to consider it abuse.

She swears at her, yes this is abuse. This type of abuse is mental abuse. We shouldnt curse or scream at the ones we love.

Taking means from a person is neglect / abuse. This is considered child abuse and neglect.

If you feel in your heart that she is really being abused, but all means, call the child abuse hotline. They will make sure that your name is kept a secret, no one will or will ever know that it was you who called.

This is what will happen: DHS or DSS will go to their home and investigate the situation. If they feel that the child is in danger they will immediately remove the child from the home. If they find that the mother is unstable and unsuitable to parent, they will find a family memeber with whom the child can live with and or adopt. They will seek within the family first. If there is a family member that is willing to take the child. If there is not family member, then they will place the child up for adoption, where she can be in a wonderful home with a family that will show her love and will provide for her.

The reason I know this, I am one of those families that are adopting an older child. There are so many wonderful families out there looking to love a child and to give a forever home to a child. I should know, I am one of them.

Here is the child abuse hotline: Call them and trust them, they will help you. If you cannot determine wheather this is abuse or not, please, leave it to them, they can make all the right choices and they will help your cousin.

Hugs and I will say a prayer for her. And I want to commed you on being a wonderful loving cousin as well. You are going to be blessed for helping others.

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Answer 6

Of course is child abuse!!!! If you are not part of the solution you are an accomplice of the crime. You can give an anonymous tip if you don't want anyone to know. You shoul call Children Service. In this country the number of children killed by their abusive parents is growing. You should get info on the subject.

http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/


There's a lot of info there so you can be better prepared.

Answer 7

Yes, that is abuse and someone needs to call the authorities... There is no reason for this kind of behavior from an adult.. That woman needs to be put in jail, and that child needs to be put in a good loving home....

Answer 8

Yes. Call Child Protective Services. That's cruelty. She's still a minor.

Answer 9

Yes!!!!!! That is disgusting and horrible what your aunt is doing to her child. I would report her to the police if i were you. You need to keep that poor childs interest at heart and do the best you can to protect her.

Answer 10

It sounds like abuse to me. Sometimes when grown-ups are having a bad time with life....or a bad day...they take it out on others.....Aunt needs help...but don't judge too harshly.