please help
2006-12-06 13:19:35 · 33 answers · asked by paultoledo2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the real question is why are you in that marriage? If she's not even living with you and consistently leaves then it sound to me like she's using you as nothing more than a back up plan. Unless there are kids involved, It wouldn't take me more than two seconds to realize this is unhealthy and leave. I mean you'd be happier with someone who was going to respect you. If it's truly meant to be she'll wake up and come back on her hands and knees but if not, screw it you're better off.
2006-12-06 13:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides that she's obviously insecure the honest truth is most likely the sex is lacking. A good number of women often feel a right to punish men for being bad in bed (by taking money, crying on their shoulders pointlessly, cheating with other men to remind their "backup man" they are "selfish" by "taking pleasure without giving it", etc.)
Read the book "Kosher Adultery" and you'll see what I mean...it even gives biblical explanations for this kind of behavior. If you're already making your wife call your name chances are your wife is just incredibly insecure and looking for attention or a backup plan but, otherwise, take some responsibility get your sex life and stamina in gear & make her happy or accept the consequences.
2006-12-06 13:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't love you,you are old faithful kind of like her security blamket and you keep allowing her to come back when the old flames shes left you for doesn't work out you need to break this cycle because she will continue to leave you and come back when it is convenient for her but if you stop her from doing this then she will have no choice but to move on and stand on her own two feet she hasn't quite gotten to picture her exes are her exes for a reason and until she figures this out I would drop her behind and let her stay with her ex good luck.
2006-12-06 19:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has a real need...A need to lead you on. She wants to keep you on the back burner, ''just in case'' the other relationships do not work out. Some people would define a person like her as a ''PLAYER'' with a capital P, but without knowing your wife, I believe she is a very insecure person who, always trys, to have a ''backup'' plan in everything she does. Sometimes, also, people like her, really, do not know what they want in life. If she comes back to you, she will, more than likely, never be faithful...it is not in her character to be with just one man. It would be best if you would just move on with your life and file a divorce and do not look back, unless you can be with a woman who will never be yours alone.
2006-12-06 13:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dee A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute here . . . . your WIFE lives with another guy??????? How exactly is that happening? What do you mean she has left you numerous times??? Sounds like you're in high school, not real life.
2006-12-06 13:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my section, i think of which you're very egocentric and you're in undemanding terms checking out on your person superb hobbies, not your toddlers or spouse. you have been cheating on your spouse because of the fact the very beginning...i think of which you're able to keep your loved ones to any extent further soreness and laid low with all of this to and fro and basically go away. I strongly recommend which you be a guy and basically circulate formally record for a divorce. You needless to say do not care approximately this marriage and choose on thus far different persons such as you're single.
2016-12-11 03:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she's having her cake and eating it too!!!
I can't believe you put up with this.
your wife has you on an emotional roller coaster, I'm surprised you haven't snapped by now!! she has the nerve to live with another man and tell you she loves you? what bs!!!she has you to fall back on,whenever things get tough with the other men, don't take this sh__t anymore,If I were you I would head to the nearest divorce court,If she loved you she would not be living with another man,she has got serious issues,you don't need that
get rid of her, and find someone who respects and loves you!!
2006-12-06 13:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities. One is she feels like she loves you, love is a verb so by the sounds of it she doesn't actually love you she just feel attached to you.
Or two, she knows she doesn't love you, but is very manipulative and wants you to hang on to her for her own self esteem.
It's more than likely the first, you don't get too many people that are intentionally hurtful etc.
2006-12-06 13:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by kittyandcj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife does not love you because if she did she would not be doing to you what she has. let her go and divorce her and find someone who knows what love really is.she has shown you nothing but grief and constant patterns of unfaithfulness.she is not worth your life being torn apart like this. move on and find a true love with someone who will be rooted and grounded and unmovable. there are good women out there who would be good to you and treat you good.
2006-12-06 13:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are behaving like a doormat.
If you allow her to walk all over you, she will. Next time, tell her not to bother coming back, pack her clothes up and leave them on the doorstep. You deserve better than that.
2006-12-06 13:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋