Ok so im bi and i need help!!! Can you help me?

Question

I told my best friend that I was bi a couple of months ago. She was worried and ok with it (at the same time) (she said she was behind me 100%). I promised that I wouldn't hit on her and that nothing would change. Well a couple of months go by, and I’m falling in love with her and I have no idea what to do. I know that she is straight but she is soooooo sweet and she is the only person I can see my self with right now. I also can’t stop thinking about her. WHAT DO I DO? Help
(srry this is so long)

Answer 1

She knows you're bi. She knows you've committed to not hit on her. But she's also probably thought the situation over and realized that you wouldn't have said that if there weren't some attraction there.

Let it be, be each other's friend, and if she has an interest she'll make the first move. If you make that move after you've committed otherwise, you'll lose on all counts.

Answer 2

Leave it alone sister! You told her your were bi to get a response. You got your response now accept it..I would suggest that you get out there and find you a nice girl to get over this sexual frustration with and keep your friend a friend. Hook up with another sweetie and close your eyes and imagine it's your friend. Whatever it takes, friendship is a sacred thing that can serve you well forever. Don't be selfish/self centered and blow it away...Think about it.....I've been there and I know it's hurting right now, I promise it will pass and you'll a better person for it.....Love ya all there is!

Answer 3

This is a problem not specific to being bi; I fell in love with my best (male) friend. I had to make the decision whether I wanted to keep him as a friend, or try to pursue a relationship.

It may be that your feelings of love are the platonic affection you have for her coupled with the support you're getting from her.

It's going to be a risk either way (going for it vs. keeping the friendship). You'll know what to do; trust your instincts.

Answer 4

Start thinking of her more as your sister and stand behind your promise. Besides, if she is straight, what will come of it? It will be like trying to get blood out of a turnip. Set sights on someone else. She sounds like a good friend, and good friends are so hard to come by.

Answer 5

question:"ok so im bi?? ...i actually dont know whilst it relatively is going to be much less complicated to tell my kinfolk reason im scared" My answer: My kinfolk nevertheless practices a "do no longer ask, do no longer tell" coverage and it works for us. Edit: How am i able to get a thumbs down for a uncomplicated answer? LOL Cheers!

Answer 6

Stop lusting for her, you just want her because you feel comfortable around her because she is your best friend, and you temped yourself by telling her you would not hit on her, so stop daydreaming and move on and since your BI, you can always find you a good man

Answer 7

Trust me, don't go back on your promise. The worst thing you can do is hit on her. Trust me. Go to bars and clubs specifically for the GLBT community and find a girl there.

Answer 8

you are obsessing over something you cant have. it is so typical of a gay person to do this. only because there are so many more straight fine looking people than gay people out there. so respect her in person, and try to block her out in in your dreamy thoughts. it will only disassociate you from her in the long run. find someone who is gay like you. its the only solution. best of luck.

Answer 9

just keep it to you're self cause you promised, and breaking the promise is not going to make her fall in love wit you but I don't know my sis is bi ask her, her e~mail address is [e-mail]
I don't know gurl think about it!!
***Good Luck***
~Zaida

Answer 10

nothing ruins friendships faster than sex. love her as a friend because how do you go back to being friend after you try to have a relationship.