My wife cheated on me while I was away in the service. How can I ever forgive her?

Answer 1

If youre stupid enough to join the military then youre STUPID enough to let your girlfriend cheat on you- cry much?
Its not like the military attracts the educated, only the dumb who dont know any better.

Answer 2

If i were you, I will talk to your wife. What does she wants & why she did that? If she still love and choose you, then forgive her and try to forget all thing which is hard & take a while to get back to normal but if you do love her you can do it same as I did. I was cheated too while i was working in oversea & preparing our wedding for a year ( too long). We were living together 6 years before and After that we got marriage, I moved back with my husband. Within a month I found out the SKDHFKD?? girl whom I known/respect her well tried to call him and heard from her directly that she came over our place and slept with him ( in our bed). I totally shock but no yell at him. I could not believe we talked almost everyday on the phone while i was in oversea. So we sat & talked and I let him decide so he choose me. I told him I always give people a chance and if it happen again. that's it ended.....so now we are together 8 years since we get marriage and have our little one. Now I know that I will not leave him alone by himself.

Answer 3

its up 2 u if u do or not

Answer 4

This is an odd question.

You have to remember physical need is closer to the foundation of needs (IE in Maslow's Hierarchy of needs) and therefore must be satisfied before emotional needs.

So if she merely cheated physically, with no emotional attachment involved (IE she doesn't talk about him at all or now repeatedly point at certain faults you have she never used to mention before which could be his strengths), there's a decent chance she was acting on impulse and that she would've ignored him for you if you were around. IE she knows you're the best (IE the prime rib of survival), but figures uncooked eggs (him) are better than nothing.
You should know this by how much she tries to take advantage of you: IE if she's trying to get physical with you a lot and doesn't ask for gifts/money/crying on your shoulder/etc. just to be with you chances are she really DOES think you are the best physically and emotionally.

Otherwise, there's a good chance she cheated looking for something she'd find better, in which case you should dump her. Point with women: trust me, if their men aren't around for over two weeks, the tendency for women to cheat grows exponentially.

Answer 5

She is your wife you took a vow to keep her for better or worst. She has done what any man feel is the worst thing a wife can do to her husband. What she has done to you isn't going to be an easy thing for you to deal with, unless you have never done something against someone you have not the right to hold her sin against her. The two of you have some serious matters to talk about. The memory of her act/s against your marriage will not be forgotting, but true love helps the heart heal, understanding her action may not be easy. I hope the two of can find that your marriage is worth saving.

Answer 6

Trust is the foundation of any healthy, meaningful relationship. Also, people who are in love with each other would NEVER do anything to hurt each other. I'm sorry, but while I think that it MIGHT be possible to forgive her eventually (after MUCH time), I don't see how you could ever remain together and be happy or have a loving relationship. :o( There has to be someone out there who would never do that to you. You don't deserve it. No one does.

Answer 7

Depends if it is a one time screw-up or if she feels she needs sex so much that she can't go without it and will take what she can get. If you really love her you should try and work it out. This kind of thing has happened since the dawn of recorded history and people have weathered it, only recently have people been dropping their spouses so easily after a case of infidelity.

Oh, and I wonder if this woman you are married to was promiscuous before your marriage and if that has any effect on this situation. It's a theory I have that maybe that stuff does have some sort of effect on these situations, but it's only a theory.

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Honestly I don't think you should. My husband is in the military as well and I think that the spouses that cheat are the lowest form of scum on the planet. While he was deployed I know I got really lonely but I made sure that I never put myself in a situation where I might be unfaithful. I missed out on alot of times to go out with friends because I wouldn't go to bars or clubs but I could hold my head up high when he came home. Seriously you should get rid of her and find a woman that will think you are worth waiting for.

Answer 9

I..I....Im just gona cry for u cause thats reallly messed up *attempts to cry*

well, depends on who she is as a person and the reasons behind it and if your relationship was on good terms before going away, but she shoulda had the decency to talk to you about it now that shes caught (she shoulda talked to u'before' getting caught,but thats in the past)...if shes not sry for it and doenst regret it well id say start looking for a new wife... and well if she is sry for it (and shes not lying to ur face) then id say give her another chance...though its a pretty low blow seing as u were in the army... if you can get over this 'together' like marrage counciling or something, then great // Good luck.

Answer 10

That is a very personal choice and decision. If you decide that you may want to make the marriage work because you love her. I would suggest that the two of you go to marriage counseling and find the root to the problem. Why she is unable to be loyal to her husband. I am sure it has more to do with her than it does with you. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 11

If you love her or loved her in the past and you can love her again, them you owe it to yourself and your children to forgive her. Its not the end of the world, you probably wont be able to trust her for a very long time if ever. You you can forgive her. Dont hold in hate or bitterness, its better to forgive. You will feel better for your act.
Good Luck
Capt USAF, Retired