I've come to terms with my addiction to gambling... mostly lottery tickets (scratch off, draw games). It's been months building up, and I had no idea what I was getting into. I took a good look at my finances, and I am at the point of no return! I've been searching for the right counselor, and found out thru my work we offer Employee Assistance Program (EAP). I found articles on the internet, and all of my symptoms and actions diagnosed as a mental disorder, Pathological Gambling, I can deal with the difficulty of getting better, but my major problem is how I've kept it a secret from my spouse, friends and family members. That was one of the key factors to my illness. I am taking the first step in getting help....but how do I disclose to my spouse the mountain of debt we're in? I am prepared to end our marriage if it comes to that. But honestly, I feel my spouse will be supportive in helping me recover, and we would have to start over (most likely have to file bankruptsy).
2006-12-06 13:06:15 · 5 answers · asked by LARGE MARGE 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
add it up
tell him or her EXACTLY how many thousands down you are
and how and when you can pay it off
if you can't, get his or her input and emotional support
debt of one person affects the other, be honest, pay it if you can
if not then maybe bankruptcy, avoid it if you can
love and people matter 1000x as much as money, many people doubt that, but if you get sick or crazy or broke or whatever you learn that its true.
2006-12-06 13:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you have made a mistake and made bad choices. at least now you admitt it and want help.. so go get it if your husband loves you he will help you. he will be upset no doubt and has every rite to be but if you clean up and change and dont do it again i think you will be ok.my husband is an alcoholic he has cost us alot,, money heartach ect anyway i love him and have for yrs tried to stick by him i cant do it anymore so i told him he has to choose his booze or us that was on last tues and he hasnt had a drink since.. i know he will slip up again and i may over look it once but then im out of here if he goes back to it. and that is my rite just like your husband should give you one chance to clean up then if he leaves its your fault..its called tough love
2006-12-06 14:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by crazyme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I compulsively wonder about people. And hope when there is every reason not to.
2006-12-06 13:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im addicted to ROOOCK AND ROOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLL
2006-12-06 13:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
newports and sex
2006-12-06 13:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋