why do people say "Ill be here for you" when they arent?

Question

ive had some good friends who have said many times "ill be here for you" and "i love you" and "ill never leave you, i promise" ect. yet they always leave, even if i try to keep in touch they always seem to stop emailing or calling or writing always. How come the only people who will actually truely b there are the people that you pay to be there for you like a therapist or something? i know that the whole world doesnt care about me. im not asking for much. i try hard to make sure people know i care for them becuase that is so important to me. how come after a while, no one cares back and i feel so alone and abandoned?

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Answer 1

People usually say that they will be there for you because I don't realize what will happen in the future. They don't know what they will be feeling so they automatically assume that they aren't going anywhere. Humans aren't exactly psycic so half the time, whatever we say now, we would want to take it back in the future.

I don't think this was part of your question but when you say you feel alone....that is a feeling. You are never really alone, it is just all inside. Through experience, as long as you remember that you are never really alone, then you shouldn't feel alone.

Answer 2

Well, first of all, you're wrong when you say that no one cares. There is always someone who cares. His name is God. He is a Father, a Friend and a Lover all rolled into one and he will never leave or forsake you. Maybe you've heard this b4, but I ain't tryin' to preach atcha. He seriously is and will always be there for you. He will guide you and take care of you.
Secondly, I think you have never been with people who really care about you for you. I think you've had some bad experiences. You know, people are just people. We ALL make mistakes, no one is anywhere NEAR perfect. And it is our weakness that perfects God's power. It's ok to feel alone. Many people do feel alone and rejected. Yet, it's not true. It's a lie when you think that no one cares about or loves you. Because God always, always, ALWAYS does and will. He knew you way back before you were even born and said, "Hmm, I think I'm going to make her. Yeah, she'll be perfect for My plan. K, here we go." And bam, like that, years and years before you were born, the mold was made and you were you.
My point: Don't give up on others cuz you think they gave up on you. And always, ALWAYS remember that He loves you more than you can fathom. More than the stars in the sky, more than any other creature He created. You are His.
Love in Christ,
Ali

Answer 3

People are very shallow nowadays that's why i don't bother with anyone nowadays. People don't really mean what they say. I've been stabbed in the back by so many people so many times it's turned me into a very cold and harsh and unforgiving person, whereas i never use to be. Please don't say that no one cares about you as it sounds too upsetting. I never had real friends and never had people who even said that they'd be there for me. Once a person opens their mouth i have to assume that theyr'e lying, and usually i'm proved right. I'm sorry that your'e not in the best of health. Do you have an e-mail or something?

Answer 4

You probably are a nice, considerate person, but people these days have so many issues of their own, they are probably hoping for the same respect as you. You need to find some true friends that love and care for you for being yourself. Those people that say those good, comforting things that don't come through when you need them are so of the ones that aren't truly with you. People say those things to seem like they are backing you up 100%, but you have to believe that they are really there for you. Of course, people are going to act right when they are getting paid, because our world is run by economy.

Answer 5

u just havent met the right friends yet becuz my friends say that stuff all the time and i kno that they mean it cuz they always have been there for me and as for the people that move away jsut make new friends and then ull have friends that are far away and friends that are close to u so then u dont feel alone and abandoned so just go out and meet new people

Answer 6

first, because they want you to fill good and comfortable. trust me, no one not even you could ever find a true friend. you can't ever find a friend who promises you something and never do it. they want something back like money. money can buy anything it is the most power full thing in the real life.

Second, because when you pay them they want to get more money and money. Let me tell you something most of the time in real life money is much more better than friends but with money you can't have any true friends, trust me!

Answer 7

The humorist Mark Twain was a funny guy and great writer. This is one of my favourite quotes from the wise man himself: "the goodness, the justice, and the mercy of God are manifested in His works" Coupled with: "the universe is governed by strict and immutable laws", which determine "small matters" such as who dies in a pestilence." Great understanding. Anyhow, back to your question. I personally do not favour "threat based" discussions or "evangelism". God is good and wants great things for his prime creation. If people are not afraid of hell, then it makes me sad. Same as if they reject God when not considering any "punishment" issues. Because it is very sad for them, not for me. But Mark Twain was just messin' - as long as you know that.

Answer 8

promises are very hard to keep, but still shoudn't be broken. You should give one of them a call, (no matter how akward) and talk to them. Sometimes people dont realize how fast life goes, and its over before they got to enjoy it. Distractions happen, tahts nor eason to lose a friend.

Answer 9

well...just talk to them and tell them how you feel...
sometimes people might just be too busy to always keep in touch with you.
and dont say that they dont care about you becuase deep inside they will always care about you no matter what.