last time I ask this question I got all kinds of jokes and bad comments that didnt help, but I also got some really good.
Anyways, like I said before, I been seperated from my girl of 7 years due to all kinds of problems, verbal abuse, liyin, not carin, concentratin at work more, payin attention to my dumb guy friends, but not cheatin. Anyways I been livin at my mom's since a month ago; my girls' aunt pass away like two weeks ago, she call me, and we started gettin closer, more "ok", she did told me durin that time "i want u back, cuz u are showin that you are changin, but give me time to fall in love wit you, cuz i do love u", but then again last week I acted like an idiot, and put pressure on her for us to get back together, and now we are back to square one again, now she tells me, "right now i dont know if i want u back" the same thing that she told me when i move out of the house. Before you go all crazy on me, i know is all my fault, and I want to fix things, we have a son of 2
2006-12-06 13:00:34 · 20 answers · asked by Darksied 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all no offense, but it is pretty stupid to get mad over you being idiot. i would blame that on her and not you. we all have our moments and acting stupid. your ex should think about what is best for your son and not only herself. since there is a child involved, i think you guys should try and work it out. if you dont have any feelings there, then let it be. no offense, but the only reason she called you was cause she was greaving and needed someone to turn too. she probably wants someone there if she dies. it probably put her life into perspective for her. make sure if you are going to get back together that she likes you, and not because she needes comfort or anything. i dont know why you guys would want to get back together again anyways from all the abuse that is happening. if it is you, then i can understand why she isnt sure if she still loves you. if it is her, then i dont know why she wants to put you through any of that again. well hope i helped. i would be glad to help of email, if you want. good luck!
2006-12-06 13:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by JennyJen91 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16, so you are probably not ready for a baby even though you think you are. You haven't said how old your gf is, but she should also wait. You say you have thought about everything, well who is going to pay for the doctor and hospital bills? Who is going to take care of the baby? I think you may have disgussed everything you think you might feel as a parent, but not about the responsibility side of things. I think the only thing you can do right now is to wait. That does not have to be a bad thing by the way. It will give the 2 of you more time to think about things. I first got pregnant when I was 18 and I was married. I thought I new everything there was to know about having a baby and the responsibilities that goes along with having a baby. I was wrong, I didn't have a clue what I was doing and I was scared to death. I didn't even have to worry about the not being married part, or the financial side of things, or any of the really hard stuff. But it was still very overwhelming ans I wish I had waited until i was even older than that. So I ask you to please not be in any hurry, because you don't realize what you are getting into to.
2016-05-23 02:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant for you two to get back together, you will. I know you want her back and you want her back, right now, but is this what is best for BOTH of you? If you become too pushy, at this point, after all you and her have been through, you will only push her away, more. Actions speak louder than words, so instead of begging for her to come back to you, SHOW her that you have grown up. Sometimes, though, there is no fixing things in a relationship...sometimes, the best thing you can do is to just ''move on'' with living your life. Live your life and surround yourself with friends and family and sooner or later, she will come back to YOU when and if she is ready. If she never comes back, though, at least you will have your family and friends to turn to.
2006-12-06 13:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dee A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMAO! Sir the fact that you have a child together means you'll always be in each others lives. However, that does not mean you are meant to be a couple. Her aunt died, she was emotional, you stepped in like captain save em and made her feel better. Again, that does not mean you should be a couple. Clearly neither of you are ready for true love so just be good "single" parents to the little one and leave all the complicated relationship stuff behind you. Good luck!
2006-12-06 13:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her space......7 years is a long time.....and you admitted to it being your fault......So just kick back, stop calling, and trying to get back with her.....Don't call her for a while....She'll notice that you didn't call her verses you calling her....Let her do the calling....I know this may be hard for you to do....but it needs to be done.....If she still cares about you after some time she will find a reason to call you, and when she does call you don't make yourself so available.......tell her you will call her back even if your not busy.....wait 10 minutes then call her back....and be very casual.....then take it from there...........
On the other hand, if she doesn't react on this, count it as a loss and move on brother....Good luck
2006-12-06 13:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys sound like you've got a lot of things going on - but your most important thing is your son
Ask her to sit down and talk to you - u sound like you want to b with her but things keep happening
Before you talk write down ques that you want to ask her, and the things you 2 need to change to make the relationship work. While you are talking to her you'll be able 2 tell if she really wants to be with you, let her know you don't want this on again off again relationship.
2006-12-06 13:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe just kind of keep to yourself for a while. Call her once in a while and talk, don't start begging her back or none of that, jst be her friend. Continue to be a good fathe to your son and if it works out grea if not, you are still a good dad. Best of Luck, one more thing, play a little hard to get, sometimes thats fun!!!!
2006-12-06 13:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by suziQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd start the courting process all over again. . . a date at a time, flowers, candy, nice dinner, little specials, etc. You, however, HAVE to hold yourself responsibile for mature, adult behaviour and not vary from that at any time. That's the only way I know you can win this battle.
2006-12-06 13:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She'll be more interested in you when you stop paying so much attention to her. The moment she figures out you're not wondering what she's up to....she'll be wondering what you're up to.
If she doesn't....you're better off without her.
Either way...enjoy life! DONT spend yer days driving yourself crazy over her. You'll be sorry that you did.
2006-12-06 13:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by TTerrell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to grow up and know your priorities. if you want your family then you have to fight for it either outside or within yourself. that's how you know if you really care or love this girl as much as you said. commitment is not a yo-yo setup that you could just be good now and the next your friends could just easily pull you away and do stupid things. you should fight your cravings of stupidity, k?
good luck and be smarter this time.
2006-12-06 13:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by emmaj9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋