It didn't happen so much with James, living in a small town north of Chicago, everyone knew. When James was about 2 we moved to Chicago, and during my pregnancy with Emma and Madison many strangers came up to me and touched my belly! I was so offended. Has this happened to anyone else?
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2006-12-06 12:51:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
*sigh* dont you just hate that? you shouldnt be offended but since you were, just tell them to stop. a lot of ppl think that touching or rubbing a pregnant belly will give them good luck. i personally find it annoying. and some ppl just love to be around pregnant women. nothing personal, they arent trying to hurt you. have you ever noticed that when you go into shops ppl start talking instantly about baby stuff?? it happens. but if you're like me IM SICK OF IT ALL...lol but its only gonna get worst. lol so just enjoy the attention. i've gotten used to it.
love jen.
2006-12-06 12:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jennie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that it happens quite often, but it hasn't happened to me yet (knock on wood). I don't know how I'd react if someone were to do that to me. When I'm out and about, I don't think I look approachable. I believe that's why it hasn't happened. Every time a stranger even comes near my belly, my arms are already crossed over for protection. LOL. I think it's out of habit because where I live, there's a lot of rude people who don't watch where they're going. I've almost gotten rammed by a shopping cart a few times and I was pissed!!! It's good thing I have great reflexes. I've pushed them out of the way and hard.
2006-12-06 12:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(-: Oh, yeah. The miracle of life and all that. It *is* invasive, but I don't think anyone is doing it out of malice. Women who have had babies want to touch base again -- women who haven't had babies wonder what it's like -- men envy the life-building going on. I think it's always accompanied by good wishes. And if you can go with it, it's a good way to make other people feel good about life.
(-: However, some days you don't want to be touched. And our society in general is very wary of strangers and wants to be stand-offish. So the trick is to wear a coat or jacket, or just watch for the hands, and back up when they come looming in. "Sorry, I'm ticklish!" You could even ask them why strangers do that -- in a nice way, in a "I'm just trying to understand" kind of way.
But there are so many things to stress out about, I think this is one thing that it's best not to stress out about.
2006-12-06 13:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. People just feel this need I guess to connect with that. I mean it is considered one of those iconic sacred things in our society. So when folks would come up and I would feel that tap, I would just bite my lip and smile. Tried not to be rude, but inside I was like get your hand off my friggin kid!
People gravitate towards pregnant women for some reason, if they have had theirs and moved on I think they look back in fond rememberance (that is what I got a lot of, Oh I rememer being that way, tap tap,)
Amy
2006-12-06 12:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had that happen quite often. I couldn't stand it either. I felt like I was being violated by a perfect stranger. Although, what bothers me more is when I had my son, people would come up and look at him and kiss his forehead or touch him, people I have never seen in my life. I am from the South and people are friendly, but man, you don't know where their hands have been or nothing else.
2006-12-06 12:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! It happened to me at our County Fair (and you know what kinds of people go to those) LOL. This man (with no teeth) came up to me and just put his hand on my belly and then just walked off, no words or anything...it was creepy! It happened other times too but that one really stands out.
Oh and after he was born, I had a man Literally chase us down and grab the cart just so his son could see what a "little brother" looked like. (they were expecting)
and an elderly lady cornered me in the juice aisle to stare at the baby and tell me all about her kids....Like I had nothing better to do.
Oh yeah....Good Times LOL.
2006-12-06 13:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happened to me, alot. I also remembered that most people wether they were strangers or family they all wanted to touch the belly. Pregnancy is beautiful gift from God, and it itself is a miracle and everyone would love to be part of that.
2006-12-06 12:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!!! Ths happened to me allll of the time. I guess it is a normal reaction for people when the get excited to touch your belly....I feel that sometimes people just don't think and want to feel that amazing and beautiful baby experience for themselves. Speaking from my point I do miss the "baby belly" and would love to feel it again...but I have enough consideration for the other person to ask before I touch... :)
2006-12-06 12:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by new mommy and loving it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It was like it was some kind of beacon and people just wandered to it with there arm out and you know and your like " crap, why?"
i don't understand it. Maybe it's just that feeling that people get when they think about babies and how cute and sweet they are. Like when a dog walks up and before you knoe it your reaching your hand down to pet it.
I guess it seems like a loving gesture but i found it weird myself but now that my best friend just had a baby i found myself doing it
2006-12-06 12:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by piratesofmaddness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, belly touchers make me insane. It is almost kinda violating. I know they don't do it to be mean, but it still bothers me. They come up and pat it or ask if the baby is kicking. I suppose there are worse things they could do. Oh well, 8 more weeks.....
2006-12-06 13:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋