I have a bud who encouraged me to talk to her about a problem I was having. I guess I shared too much for too long because she started keeping our convos short and was a bit evasive. Then she finally approached me and said she was burned out. I was so embarrassed. Now, I just keep our friendship general and I only talk about normal day to day stuff. Our other bud said she felt bad for telling me I burned her out. Now she tries to encourage me to be open with her again but I just can't. I'm not mad, just a bit frustrated with how she handled things and I don't contact her much anymore. Am I wrong for backing off?
2006-12-06 12:49:52 · 17 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just take a time till u be ok and talk to her again
2006-12-06 12:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more than anything maybe you got your feelings hurt because here was someone who said that they would listen to your problems and then all of a sudden she basically told you that you were bothering her. I don't think it is wrong and it is completely understandable. It may just take a little time to get things back to normal with you two. I would stay in touch and go from there but I would never confide in her again even if she is begging you too, obviously she really doesn't want to hear it.
2006-12-06 20:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by medicswife23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your embarrassment which causes you to hesitate. I think that you feel ashamed that maybe she was going through some traumas you did not know about. When we have a friend that is a good listener sometimes we forget to listen back.
Only you can determine if you are wrong "backing off". There may be a good reason why she could not handle this particular problem. She will tell you when she is ready.
Grandma
2006-12-06 21:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by pip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are wrong. It sounds like she did the best she could to support you through your problem, but in the end she just couldn't handle it any more. You should be grateful that she had the courage to admit that to you.
Think back. Maybe you were so caught up in your problem that you didn't realise how much you were going on and on and on and on and on and on.... about it? Sure she encouraged you to talk to her about it, but she didn't expect to hear about it ad nauseam! Can you really blame her if she got burned out?
2006-12-06 20:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong for backing away from your friend...actually she pushed you away by saying that you "burned her out".
But, I don't know maybe she was going through some issues too? If so you guys should reconnect, if that wasn't the case then, find yourself someone who's open and willing to listen to what you have to say.
2006-12-06 21:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, I would have cut the friendship cold turkey. She sounds like a flake. Friends are supposed to be there for each other no matter what. She obviously doesnt know the meaning of the word.
2006-12-06 20:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by vanillabeancheesecake37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think that you are wrong for backing off. if you are overwhelming her with your problems, she may need a break. maybe you can still talk to her but not get into so much detail or harp on your problems every day. ive been in this situation before. from her point of view and yours. i know you dont know me but if you ever want or need a friend to talk to email me at desiree_t_cady@yahoo.com
2006-12-06 20:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't there when you needed her and she had encouraged you to talk to her!! A true friend would of handled it and been there for you. I wouldn't consider her much of a friend. You are perfectly justified in backing away.
2006-12-06 20:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,But she isnt what you need,try to maby open up to her(if your conftorable)and if she is that way,call the friendship off and dont be her friend anymore!
or
You can simply tell her your not doing the mistake you did last time,And say i dont know if i want to be your friend.Just say i dont know!
2006-12-06 20:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wrong? I would have done the same thing! Friends are there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
2006-12-06 20:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋