met this guy 2 years and after we planned to be together he changed his mind and had decided to stay with his exwife. I got married a year ago . I never forget him. I don't want him as a husband but I just eager to hear from him and would like to be just a friend. He sent me an email a year ago said "never contact me again" should I contact him like send him an email just say hi and if hw would accept my friendship?? I know I will be so frustrated if he will not answer my email... Please tell me what should I do?
There is something inside me urges me to contact him. I know it is impossible for us to meet but what I want is just to prove for him that I have been making progress in my life and got over with him...But I really cannot forget him..what should I do?? I'm from different culture though, and we had met overseas. Now I live in the same country he lives but I know nothing about where and how does his life going...I don't want anything from him just to check on him
2006-12-06 12:44:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My dear, I think it would be in everybody's best interest if you complied with his request.
2006-12-06 12:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by doggybag300 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He has his reasons for not wanting to keep in touch with you. His wife probably didn't know about his affair and he is afraid that she will find out. He doesn't want to be your friend, you represent a threat to him now. You have obviously not moved on with your life, even though you are married. Put yourself in your husbands shoes, how would you feel if he was chasing after a woman he had an affair with. I think deep down inside you hope that if you contact him he will change his mind and leave his wife for you, like he said he would. he has moved on with his life, he doesn't want you in it, respect the man you married and get on with yours.
2006-12-06 21:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should contact him. If you're truly fine and have moved on with your life then you wouldn't care if he knew that or not. Just be happy in your marriage and find the satisfaction you need with your husband. This man made it very clear to you that he never wanted you to contact him again....respect that and move on..
2006-12-06 21:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by tranquil1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do what this first answer says. I say, contact him and tell how you feel right down to the "I don't want anything" or somthing like "I don't want anything I just want to know how your doing because you had a great impact in my life and can't forget that" or somthing like that Dr.Pete
2006-12-06 20:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dr.Pete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like he and U both have moved on... Write it all in a letter,put it in an envelope- then burn it...It may sound strange but you must rid yourself of all of this excessive baggage you are carrying around so that U too can find happiness again and peace of mind---Good Luck!
2006-12-06 20:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Who? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to make the hurt worse. If he told you to not email him, don't. Remember the good times, and try to move on with your life. Focus on your husband--he needs you now.
2006-12-06 20:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should respect his wishes, leave him alone and get on with your own life. you don't know the circumstances that he is under- he may have a jealous wife and that would only complicate matters. you sound that you haven't gotten over him- let go girl!!!! otherwise you'll only complicate your life.
God bless,
gabe
2006-12-06 20:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by gabegm1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he married and you married, he requests very bluntly you do not contact him anymore, you should respect that wish. You will just be causing problems in your marriage and his if you persist...think about it....
2006-12-06 20:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by rufnready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋