Were you raised with the belief of difference among races?

Question

Okay, so here goes my story. My best friend is white, and I think he's very cool. Recently, I had the opportunity to go to his parents' house and they were really nice to me. Anyway, today he was telling me about how he was raised with the belief that people shouldn't mix with other races. He said he didn't believe that himself, but that his parents did and that they disagreed if he dated a black, mexican, or any colored girl. I was astonished by this. I asked him how his parents might've looked at me when I was at their house and he said it doesn't matter for friendships, just mixing. I still think that they might've looked at me wrong since he mentioned that they believed it was OK to mix with Chinese people since they were at the same level with whites. That shows that they believe not only in non-interracial mixing, but also that there are superior and inferior races. My question is: Where you raised this way also? What percentage of people are raised like this? He said MOST whites

*were instead of where

Answer 1

a lot of people do believe that and its kinda annoying. i dont believe that there is anything different between me and a mexican exept that they are from a different country or their parents are and that our skin is a different shade. race is what you do when you are competing to see whos faster. (also if your a nerd then an elf and a human and an orc are different races but thats kinda irrelevant)

My ex who i love is "black" and my mom loves her. so my household doesnt seem to think that way. but i know people who think race mixing is bad and think any race but "white" is bad anyway.

It is most popular in the south of north america and i guess in northern europe also. (the whole norse aryan brotherhood thing) but yeah it is kinda sad being a "white" kid because people assume im racist. so i guess most "white" people believe that.

also how is "Chinese" as superior as "white" but not any other asian.i think being racist or not believeing in race mixing is the result of living in a sheltered environment and your world is a box that contains you and your family who are like you so you know nothing else. sounds to my like your friends parents are insane and need meds. lol

thanks for askin this question i kinda needed to vent a lil bit on this subject cuz people are pissin me off at school. Heavy christian kids who were homeschooled untill highschool. blech!

Answer 2

I think many people in the older generations are that way - I remember my grandmother making comments about the white race, but that was mainly due to her own personal experiences with them when she was growing up. Most people during those times I believe were molded that way as opposed to being taught that way.

From what I see, most white people feel superior to all other races, and most black people feel they are! It didn't used to be that way, but I think with the rise of black culture world-wide, it's boosting the african-based races self-esteem - which is good! Because no race is superior over the other. Some just have better genetic make-up than others, but no human can have more value over another.

Answer 3

i was raised to see people!! not colour, ethnic background, good or bad just people as they are. we all bleed red, breath the same air (so to speak) and live on the same planet, and this is how I'm raising my children. everyone has there own individual beliefs, but mine is....the ones who see anything other then human beings with the knowledge that we all have imperfections, are just ignorant, we all have the right to be treated equal and fairly and that there should be no such thing as superior or inferior, it was the same self indulged ignorant people who came up with that.
my point is although every living soul on the planet might have different jobs, different looks, colour, shapes, sizes or even income ect ect ect we are all people who feel and have the right to be judged by who we are as a person rather then what we are or what we look like. there are way to many people even still today who would not agree with me but they are the spieces that should have been wiped out with the dinosaurs or rather instead of them!!
at least they had more sense an better judgement.

Answer 4

Where you rasied this way? ... NO... BUT !!!!!

I was raise til I was 6 years old that everyone was on an equal level just some people had better jobs and bigger familys and they took care of each other....NO mater what your color or race...(((THANKS MOM)))

Then the real world hit my family and I was only 6... My dad had a girlfriend and we got kicked out had to move 775 miles south... I was going to be pulled out of what I thought was normal life and put into one that I wouldn't wish on any kid...

I tried to make friends with the kids in my new school most just talked down to me picked fights etc... This lasted til I was 10, I became very tuff and short tempered... I was at a kids brithday party and his father said to his mother WHAT IS THAT LITTLE CRACKER DOING HERE??? I had never heard this term and didn't think much of it... The people around me talked down to me tell me I ruined their lives.... I got my 1st lesson of Martin Luther King Day and my best friend was Asian at the time... He looked at me and stated to me "your White everyones parents in school hates white people"... I was blown away didn't have clue all this time... I just thought they didn't like me because I came from Iowa...

I asked my mom and she made me read more about slavery and history not tuff stuff just short storys.... I'm 1/4 American Indian from the Powhatton tribe BUT I'm just as white as the next Blonde Haired blue eyed kid.... After we had a school history program were every kid had to write a short story about there family history and all the parents that showed up heard I was part Indian and how my family was torn apart in history...

I think thats the only way I survived that year before we moved again.... Going from a full mix of Black, Spainish, few Asian very few whites TO the over the TOP white JR High.... I couldn't win for loosing.... But I was tuff and ready for any of these Kids and 75% of them where raised not even talking about racism...

So you know that All kids around me in one place in my Life were rasied to HATE the white man... Then Whites around me part of my life were rasied that whites were better but different... And others JUST didn't talk about it with there kids,,, THAT was just as bad I think...

Great Question.....

Answer 5

I was raised to believe that everyone is the same and I raised my son that way too.His first little friend was half black and half white and his room mate at the University of Michigan as Chinese and they are still friends. If he married out of the race, I would not care ps he is half Hispanic by the by.

Answer 6

No i learned on my own that racism has been made into a bad word and that it really is nothing more than tribal affinity.

Associating and relating to people more like yourself.

Nobody is superior or inferior by skintone thats ridiculous.

But using skin tone as an excuse for criminal behavior makes that person inferior since the only argument they have is based on skin tone and not character.

Answer 7

Well, you certainly can't apply %s to something like this. Taking a step back, it would be unfair to tar only whites for this kind of thinking. People of all races and cultures have harbored some form of endogamy practices for eons. Its only relatively recently in our world history that intermixture is losing its stigma, as we become more educated to people of different backgrounds.

Remember also that people are products of time and culture. People of older generations (parent, grandparent) will carry some of their prejudices with them, bc thats how they were taught to see the world when they were young. There may come a time in just a few decades when things that society seems to struggle with right now will become commonplace, and we will look like Neanderthals- like gay marriage, religion vs. evolution debates, and so on.

I do of course disagree with passing these beliefs on to younger generations. As for your friend, he's clearly been influenced by his parents, in a wrong way. It may be time for him to form his own opinions about race relations- whether he chooses to discriminate is up to him, but at least he would have made up his mind by himself.

Answer 8

i was raised like that.. My father called the black people bad names(won;t say in here) and said they where lazy, he also said that Irish people and Catholic people where lazy and alcoholics.He did not want me to be friends with any of these people cuz of what race or religion they where..If my friends and I had a fight he'd say well that figures they are Catholic or Irish..My mom was the opposite she said it didn't matter what race or religion you where we are all the same...Hmm funny how when I dated a black man she was furious and told me she would disown me if I continued to date him..I of course reminded her that I don't see color,religion etc.. .. We were all created equal..

*Funny how my dad didn't think he was so bad even though if you wanted to get picky or wanted to throw it in his face,we come from a strong German background.... And just like any other back ground Germans drink too..

Answer 9

I wasn't necessarily 'raised' this way. I was always raised that it's ok to be friends with people of other races but that they shouldn't be married or date or have children together. Whether they be African-American, Chinese, Hispanic, Indian or whatever. I definitely DO NOT agree with that though.

Answer 10

I'm black and my mom is the same why she say it's OK that my bast friend is white but she don't want me date out my race but guess what my boyfriend is white but I have not told her yet and I don't think I will I don't give a **** what race you are as long as you are nice to me It's all good