owd. My parents say it is just a stage, I didn't go through it, and Elyse is their only child besides me, I am nervous for her. She recently showed up in my home with a lit cigarette in her mouth when she came to play with my kids James, 5, and the twins Emma and Madison, 4 months. Now I don't smoke and my husband can't because of his allergies and ashtma. We told her to put it out or she couldn't play with the kids. Before putting it out she asked James if he wanted, to 'light up'. He said no... I thought good boy! I don't want Elyse to end up a drug person and homeless. HELP!
♥ the Campbells: Olivia, Blaine, James, Emma and Madison
2006-12-06 12:22:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
During most of my teenage years from 13-15 I was... In my grandpas words a wild child.
I did everything from smoking, drinking, flaked of most of my freshman year of school. I wish I had a reason to define most of my actions but I believe and only recently realized that I was doing most of it for attention.
I also wanted to push boundaries. I liked to mess with people. I would ask people the strangest questions about anything just to see how far they would let me go before telling me to shut the h*ll up. So her asking your son James if he wanted to "light up" was probably her idea of something funny. I know at that time I would of found it hilarious asking a 5 year old if he wanted a cigarette. 3
She probably not going to end up homeless or on drugs. Something will happen and she will change for the better. Shes going to mess up and wish she could fix it. The turning point for me was when I didnt have enough credits to become a sophmore. I disassociated myself from my former friends and became the person I was before.
If you want the change to happen sooner it seems like she really cares about your kids so tell her as long as shes smoking she cant come around.
2006-12-06 15:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by .:AMIZZLE:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this right - your 15 year old sister offered your 5 year old a cigarette? You should be MAD!! She's not going to learn any responsibility or how to make good choices by being coddled. She's old enough to understand consequences for her actions. It may be time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart discussion with her, and find out what's going on in her life. You also need to let her know certain behaviors are not allowable around your impressionable young children - they look up to her!! You're primary responsibility is to look after the well-being of your little angels.
2006-12-06 20:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by jello 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My little sister is exactly the same, only she's 25. Just recently she had her face broken by her crazy boyfriend and needed reconstructive surgery. I honestly don't know what to do either except be firm about what I believe and my disapproval for her behaviour. I think 'tough love' is really important in families because our close relatives are the people whom we are accountable to, whether or not we realise it on the surface. Now that you have kids, (as I do) I think your first responsibility is to them and it sounds like your sister isn't clued into their best interest. (asking a 5 year old if he wants to 'light up' for example. Joke or not, it's just not acceptable.) I feel responsible for my sister too, in a way, but had to realise that I can't change her and that I'm not her parents.
I would continue to express my concerns to my parents if I were you, too. They will eventually start listening to their older daughter who has her head screwed on right.
Best of luck!
2006-12-06 20:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
its not a stage she is going through she really needs somebodies help and attention i went through this when i was only 23 or 24 cant remember what age,i took on the responsibility of taking care of 5 kids the oldest was for-teen years old i tried to steer him the right way,but fortunately for me not him i ended up going my own way he ended up in jail up until he was around 22 now he regrets everything he did and says "i should have listen to what you were trying to tell me and do for me"but now its to late he already has a criminal record and cant get a good job, and it all started with one cigarette and from their it escalated its not that i didn't have controll of the situation,every his father got him for the week end he would come back the same or worse it was a never ending battle and the cops couldn't do anything about it just because,they needed to catch him in the act,well enough of that, get her some help remember you need to talk to her as if she was one of your friends that you are trying to help good luck
2006-12-06 20:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by mart1gon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's asking your son to light up, she needs a good swift kick to the face. Don't let her near your kids until she grows up. Maybe when she sees that she's trading family for friends, she'll get a clue.
AND POT IS BAD!!! Friggin retards think it's OK. There is a reason it's illegal, and why you can be charged with DUI when you smoke it. This is to the schmuck 1 line up.
2006-12-06 20:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She might be doing the worst drug of all (marijuana is NOT bad), but this doesn't mean she is a bad person. Just don't let her around your kids if she is smoking.
2006-12-06 20:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by rwest 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋