I caught myself that I don't want to have many things in my life simply because I don't want to be relied on anything or anybody but myself. When you really want something and have it, it's nice. However, when something goes wrong with it, it's a pain to part with it. Also, if you really work hard for something, and there's no guarantee that you will get it, it takes a lot of value away from it.
I also don't like setting goals because I'm not sure whether or if I will be able to follow through. Because I understand that human mind is changing all the time, I realize that what I want today, I may not want tomorrow, so if I want something, I already look at it from the point that I may not want it tomorrow, and therefore I don't want it today. And so I don't want to commit myself to doing things. Setting the goals is very hard for me, since if you don't even know if you will want something tomorrow, how can you work for it today? Tricky friggin' question....
2006-12-06 12:17:33 · 7 answers · asked by Negotiator 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Another problem is that when I decide that I will do something, I also realize that doing that may demand more time and energy than I now anticipate. And that makes me look at them as not worthy of energy investment. I'm guessing that computer games had a lot to do with this, since in them it's soooooo easy to get everything. I now don't play them anymore yet I'm stuck with these paradigms that getting huge results should be fast, easy, and effort-free. How do I make my brain realize that that's not how the world works?
2006-12-06 12:22:11 · update #1
Look, for the first part, you are closing yourself way too much. I know what you mean in a way because I am also some what the same way. I don't really like to watch out for others, i'd rather watch my own back. I can understand what you mean, but it's always nice to have others back (at least those who you love) because in the end they are the only ones who will be there for you remember that. My best friend who has known me since I was 2yrs old has taught me that when it comes to my sh*t, I can depend on no one but myself because it's MY problem that needs to be fixed nobody else's. The part when you say losing and having something and the consequences that come along with it, that is something that comes with everyday life. You're not alone, trust me you are NOT alone. Everybody in this world goes through the same thing, I do as well and I am not kidding you when I say it. I'm 18yrs old, this is my first semister of college, and yet here I am going through all these thoughts, doubts of what is to become of my life. Make it a habit to tell yourself that anything is possible if you really give it your all. If you want something and you're determined enough,then you will get it. If you don't get what you want, hey you gave it your all and all you can do. It's part of life and growing up. Time is also an essence because it's something that you can not control. If what you want takes time, then you wait that time. I want to become a doctor, I know it will take time...more like 8yrs of my life, but hey if it's something I really want then i'd wait those 8yrs because as you said, when you get what you want it's the best feeling you can recieve. Life comes at you fast, trust me I know now. Yes, if what you want in life is to be what you want nobody can do it for you, you have to do it yourself. Don't forget to open up more to those who care because it only hurts them more than you think. Being afraid of having that much responsiblity : watching out for others and having the consequences put on you, setting a goal that you are not sure what the outcome might be or is even worth it, it's all a part of growing up and facing the world. There is no running from it, but don't steep yourself so low. You can get through anything if given the chance. I am only giving you my opinion and I hope it does help somewhat. I pray you can through it ^ ^
2006-12-06 13:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rebel6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my 43 years I have found that the most gratifying feeling for me is to learn how to do a particular job (in my case electric) and then have that talent be able to give you a comfortable living and also put a smile on someones face by being able to help them out with knowledge of something they cannot do alone. You make yourself and another person happy all at once. It is nice to feel needed for a talent, and it is nice to have a home you worked hard for. 2 stones at once!
2006-12-06 12:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Zippy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to do this also, I made things harder than they are. I find now that I do something everyday , you have to do something, you cant just wait for things. what ever I decide to do I do it my best. That's all you can do, what ever the out come. Learn from experience and keep on doing what you need to do to live and have fun. Its OK, your not alone. Good luck. See ya.
2006-12-06 12:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by duster360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, go to the Attention Deficit Disorder website and take the quiz. You are classic ADD. And guess what, so are most of the really talented people on the planet.
2006-12-06 12:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Timing is everything.
Give yourself time.
Perhaps you are not ready. Now breathe and take a deep breath.
Take time to allow changes into your life. Take time to live. Don't let others push you when you know it's not right...yet.
GOD bless.
2006-12-06 12:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before you decide to make a committment think about the time and effort required weigh it out very carefully.
remember think before you leap!
2006-12-06 12:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget to drink more Rum. Don't leave home without it.
2006-12-06 12:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by robert m 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋