I have a friend and I think he might be gay. He usually acts a little feminen (sp) and he dresses soo nice everyday. Yes, I know that this doesnt mean hes gay but if you ever met him trust me you would think right off the bat he was gay. The only thing is that he continues to talk about girls, but one day I brought in a magazine and we sat there talking about the guys in the magazine and how hott or not we thoguht they were. What im wondering is if this is a phase a person goes through before admitting they are gay or what?? thanks so much guys!
2006-12-06 11:50:44 · 19 answers · asked by whereHAVEallTHEcowboysGONE 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have asked him and he said no..but im not convinced
2006-12-06 11:58:57 · update #1
Let him talk to you about his sexuality in his own time. Be supportive and show love. Make sure he knows that you care for him and when he is ready, he will talk to you about his feelings. Don't pressure him into opening up when he is not ready.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 12:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by AT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course nothing is definite until he tells you, but it sounds like it. If you just let on that it is not a problem, and just continue to be a friend...he should eventually tell you. He has to come to terms with it first before he can share it with others. Yeah...a lot of gay guys go through that "No..I swear I like girls...I just think guys are hot" There is always the possibility that he is bi as well. Either way he still has to deal with that and accept it. Dont push though. It usually strains the relationship. It will happen when he is ready.
2006-12-06 12:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by tata_bigs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend is the same way. If you met him just the way he talks and dresses seems gay. But my guy friend is actually straight, but I don't know if it's a phase of him acting gay or not. He also has 5 feminine sistas. So what if he is gay though, there is nothing wrong with that! Just ask the poor man.
2006-12-06 11:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is gay. But there is no stereotype for a gay person, lets put it that way. He may be the guy next door or the mailman, and your friend's so called 'attraction' towards male models in the magazines could be just admiration taken the wrong way!
2006-12-06 16:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by AlexMarques 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is. If so, you're a lucky girl. Many gay guys make the best drinking, shopping, and hanging-out partners on the earth.
Don't worry about it. It's something he'll (obviously) have to figure out on his own. If he comes to you, let him know it's fine. You love him (as a friend, that is), right? What would be strange about it if he was gay? He'd be the same as always, except you could check out guys together.
2006-12-06 11:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, i have a friend the same way. he knows that all of the friends in our circle think hes gay but he denies it b/c hes catholic and he has never admitted it. im 100% sure hes gay and ive known since the moment i met him. this seems to be the case with you. look i have learned to accept that he is ready to come out. Dontask him anymore. it probably kills him inside taht he cant come out for w/e reason. dont push it. hes probably already depressed. i know you wanna know but does it really matter if he is or not. just be his friend. if you want to, talk to him about how u support gays and just BE SUPPORTIVE! dont accuse him or ask him again. its his choice to come out or not. if u push him then he might do something dangerous. just be his friend.
2006-12-06 13:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by defenderof thehumanright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit I have never heard of a person going through a magazine and commenting on which guys he believes are hot. I would say good luck with that and if you really want to know just ask him.
2006-12-06 11:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Fastdog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for some it is a phase that they aren't willing to admit it to some one because they haven't earned that persons trust. if you are a true friend you will let him tell you on his terms, not yours.... by showing him a book and putting him on the spot. so what is your motive for asking him these questions? is it to reassure him that you will still accept him for who he is if he were gay? is it to exploit him in a way so that you can say you have a gay friend? hmmmm. why do you feel the need to pursue this. you haven't earned his trust. that's why he hasn't come out to you. i hope your not doing it for those shallow reasons. you need to know why you want to know why he is gay.
2006-12-06 12:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by shyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainley it takes awhile for a guy to come out of the closet. There were a few kids in my high school who came out either right before or right after graduation. Many times males are unwilling to admit gayness during high school because they know they will be made fun of
2006-12-06 11:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Robert B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a guy friend who's very similar to yours......His gestures are very feminine, the way he walks, talks, and he dresses immolate, and he's very very tidy.....you know what they say.....anyhow all he talks about is women....and how he wants to do this and that.....but one day we we're a little tipsy....and he told me he fantasized about men who look like women.....and how he was with a woman so he thought and when he found out it was a man he was not mad at all....in-fact there are still really close friends.....soooo hummmm you do the math.....good luck.....
2006-12-06 12:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋