How can I get my husband to quit asking me for a ********? He ask me all the time at least 10 + times a week... and the longer I don't the more he begs! It all started when I gave him his first B.J. on christmas night last year... now he won't stop asking... OR begging. How do I get him to stop?
2006-12-06 11:45:45 · 44 answers · asked by sbttw2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am totally with you on this one girl. I used to love given BJ then my husband started asking for them an begging for them and nagging me. It just freakin annoyed me. It turned me off to feel so pressured. If he would just shut up I'd do it more. I think a lot of it w/ a husband is that, once you're married you know them on a different level. They disgust you sometimes and they treat you like crud sometimes. Now if they really want a BJ they can start treating us a little better. I am not holding out. I am just not turned on enough to give a good one. If men could figure us out it sure would be to their benefit. Especially in this area. At least for me.
2006-12-06 12:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by momof2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughie. I think that in order get him to quit asking so much, you should tell him that when you gave him his first , you intended it to be a special thing, not an everyday occurrance. Tell him that it is mundane now and you want to want to re install the sacridity and passion of the act and the only way to do that is to do it less often. You can offer other alternatives, or another option is that you can go to a sex therapist. Do you know if he has any history of abuse in his past? If you think that it is a problem, and have already talked to him about it and it still persists, maybe you should politely suggest a sexoholics annonymous class to him. There is probably a local chapter in your area. The web address is www.sa.org. But you need to be honest with him about your feelings, and if he dosnt respect your wishes, you need to work on that with him.These are just some options, good luck! :)
2006-12-06 12:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave it to him as a "gift"? Ok well then that's just sad. If he's that not worth it to you physically you have some nerve for marrying him.
If he hasn't tried tried to satisfy you or you haven't hinted at him how to, give him hints. If you already have given hints and he isn't trying to improve or he has tried to improve then maybe you need a divorce (it's better for kids to see divorce than live with two unhappy parents, less of two evils). Lastly if you really do enjoy your husband very well physically but just don't have the drive to get busy as much as he does (no matter how attractive the man you were with my be), you also may well have a relationship breaker of incompatible libido.
In short: You can't really get him to want less by verbal manipulation (without putting annoying conflict in the relationship) but perhaps you can get him good enough at things so you want more and it'll balance out (and he'll realize he can't handle as much as he wants and he'll slow down (maybe to something more like 4-5 times a week)).
2006-12-06 14:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead a do it. But give him a really terrible one.
A couple of bad teeth slips and he won't be pestering you anymore. But the thing is you have to make it seem like you're really into it. Don't let him know your intentionally doing a bad job. Just keep going until he begs you to stop. Trust me he won't bring it up again The only thing worse than no B.J.s are really bad B.J.s. Ha Ha Ha!
2006-12-06 12:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him there are more romantic ways to work up to the event. And you might want to ask him "when was the last time he took his time to think what would make you happy in the sack" But, guys are going to want that 24/7 no matter what you do. Tell him to have some class.
2006-12-06 12:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him one, once a week. That way he will get what he wants and you won't have to deal with him begging. Set a schedule that you both can live with. It's better to give a little than to having him looking for it somewhere else.
2006-12-06 11:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make an agreement. maybe only only 2 or 3 times a week that way when he reaches his limit fair and neither of you get frustrated. Talk to him about it communication is the most important thing.
2006-12-06 12:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um.... maybe make a compromise of some sort? like, tell him if he goes down on you, you'll return the favour? or just talk to him about it. explain you're happy to do it once in awhile, but begging for it 10+ times a day is a total turn off and makes it feel like a chore... that you're much more likely to do it when you're not feeling like you're being forced to.
2006-12-06 11:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Skyler789 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey if you only wanted to do it once then you shouldn't have started men love b.j.'s so you need to do it at least three times a week or just leave him for someone who doesn't like b.j.'s good luck
2006-12-06 11:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by baby girl 26 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you started it. Why do you not like oral sex? Do you think it is dirty? Look on web there are several good web sites that will give you some pointers. Trying getting in the shower with him and cleaning him up good, then try it. If that does not work just tell him that you are not into oral sex.
2006-12-06 11:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by cm f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋