When ever we have sex it's awesome, and she orgasms like crazy, but she never wants to have it as much as I do. I just got married like 6 months ago, but have been together for almost 6 years. If she knows that sex means so much to me, I dont get why she just doesnt give it to me? I show her that im pissed about it by sleeping on the couch. I do stuff that I dont wanna do for her...why is sex any different?
2006-12-06 11:45:23 · 12 answers · asked by way2extreme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tried to act like I dont want it, but then she just thinks im not interested.
2006-12-06 11:51:00 · update #1
Maybe, from her perspective, she's already meeting you in the middle on this? If you want sex every day, and she only wants it once a week, then once every 3 days would be a fair compromise. It would still fall short of your daily requirement - but you can't always get everything you want.
I don't know why sex is a big deal for some people, and "not a big deal" for others. It has never been a "big deal" for me personally, and in my previous marriage it was kind of a chore to keep my husband happy in this way. Now I'm married to a guy who feels as indifferent towards it as I do, and we have a good relationship. It's always hard to deal with incompatibility in a marriage; it can be super-frustrating, I agree. Talk to your wife, try to figure out where she stands.
2006-12-06 12:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping on the couch and acting pissed about is only going to make her mad and want it less. She then will start to wonder if you are so sex obcessed where are you getting it from when you are not with her.. sex is great, but not everything that a relationship is about.. You should ask her why she doesn't want to have sex more.. Are you sure that she is orgasming like crazy or is she faking? The best thing that you can do is talk to her about and see how she feels.
2006-12-06 12:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more specific, I have read all of the answers here, but not one person has mentioned....Kids....Job...ect. I am the mother of 6, I have been married for 12 yrs. My husband and I argued this point for YEARS. He has a high sex drive, I did when we first got together, but I homeschool 5 teens, and we have recently adopted a child (before he left). The baby was 4 weeks old when we got him. But even before the baby came into our lives, I still had a drastic change in my sex drive. Come on... do laundry, cook, clean, homeschool, taxi cab kids all day. My life is busy, and busier than his, and he works. I do not get to get off at 5pm and not return til the next morning. I am up 2 hours before anyone, making breakfast and starting laundry......then homeschool all day, then clean, cook dinner, clean again, and I get to bed an hour or 2 after everyone. Now....why would you remotely think that I would want to crawl into bed and get intimate? Hmmmmmm....... I try to be sensitive to his needs, and I enjoy our intimacy, but geeze...I would like some sleep too!
2006-12-07 04:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never a good reason for cheating. Why don't you take the initiative and do something for her to help put her in the mood? Do things around the house (for me there are few things as hot as my husband doing stuff around the house for me when I didn't even ask him), take her to dinner, give her sensual massage, take a bubble bath together. There are plenty of things. If that doesn't work, talk to her. If THAT doesn't work, I suggest marriage counseling. People who have been married for a long time get complacent and that is when a lot of affairs start. It's not worth the hurt to your wife and children (if you have any). Make a difference NOW. :) Good luck.
2016-05-23 02:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. A lot, I even think all women, have sex when they dont want to please their men. You have to let her know that a relationship is a compromise. You have to get what you want out of the relationship just as she has to get what she wants. Was she like that before you got married?
2006-12-06 12:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is in a comfort zone...ur there ...ur married...ur not going anywhere....Also by showing that your mad at her is just going to make her want to be less intimate with you. Try talking to her...that is the only place you are truly going to get the correct answer is by talking to her and letting her know you do love her and that you like to show her by making love to her....dont just make it about you...take her needs into consideration also
2006-12-06 11:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rie2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reverse psychology. try it :) act the same way, like you're not interested in sex and the tables will turn.
2006-12-06 11:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her - you need communication. Maybe seek professional help. You need to work thru this, its all give and take. Good luck!
2006-12-06 11:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones are a *****- i am hardly ever in the mood, but when my hubby gets me started i have a grreat time. there are times when i am really not in the mood and i make it clear. just discuss it with her.
2006-12-06 11:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up first of all and quit pauting about not getting your way. this is a give and take thing it is not always what you want but what the two of you want together
2006-12-06 11:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by charles_jg8047 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋