my girlfriend, of 6 years (lived together for 4 years) has stook by me since we got our 1st house 4 years ago, just b4 we sighned 4 our 1st house i told her that i was doing cocaine, (quite a lot, £200 a week), but would stop!. i did for a bit, then started again, then she thought i stopped, but didnt, then i did, then carried on, an thats how its been ever since. now its like this- every time i have it, she knows, instantly, either when we talk on fone, by the tone of my voice, or instantly when she see's me, trouble is, she hates it as much as me. i think she is only hanging about to save the shame she will feel, also, i know she loves me unconditionally, why? she puts things off with her friends because she doesnt want to leave me at a loose end, i have even said and done bad things to her... look people, i know u r all gunna slag me off here, but please, after that, try an help... my partner is 100% normal, in every way, i love her loads an loads, wats up with me???????
2006-12-06 11:25:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
one word- REHAB. if you want to keep her and have a productive relationship, this is the only way.
2006-12-06 11:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very lucky man to me. You've already put her through some hell by the sounds of it. Why not show her that you really mean business, go see your doctor, ask for help from the professionals and give her some respect back. She obviously cares for you but the romantic feeling will eventually fade if she sees her life going down the toilet too. I do believe you love her, love yourself too. Take strides towards a clean way of life and I feel that you two could really have something special. At the end of the day "the balls in your court". I hope that you choose to do the right thing. Good luck.
2006-12-06 19:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Scotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to meditate. Watch your mind as it goes through that pattern - "I'm feeling OK. I'm a bit bored. I need a lift. I'm going to do drugs". Then when you see the pattern happening, concentrate on that gap between "I need a lift" and "I'm going to do drugs". Focus in on it. Watch the gap get bigger and bigger. See how that feels. It's a bit empty. But its also peaceful. Learn to relax into that gap without trying to change anything. That's the space where you're the person who your partner loves. Not the freaked-out, sensation-seeker. Just you. You can live in that gap for the rest of your lives together. No problem.
2006-12-06 19:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Coyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need rehab. You need to recognize that Cocaine isn't good for you, And you know this, so Quit and get some help if you want to save your life. Don't sit and think that it will go away, you need help, If she was a real girlfriend she would have tried to get you to do the rehab thing. As her for help and possible mention that you want to change.
2006-12-06 20:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I pray and hope that she'll wise up and realize what you are: a self-centered ADDICT who will always put his drug of choice before her or any family member for that matter.
Please, even if your girlfriend is a rescuer or enabler and stays with you, do the manly thing and get a vasectomy before you have children that you'll never be able to support(or want to, for that matter) because of your first love, COCAINE.
2006-12-06 20:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously loves you and you should feel very lucky to have found someone that is standing by your side through thick and thin. Maybe as a favor to her, you could try not to do cocaine anymore. Just a thought...
2006-12-06 19:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by happy311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be healthy for someone else until you are healthy for yourself. Get help, get over your addictions, then concentrate on making a life for both of you. It sounds like she really loves you and I think this is what she would want from you and for you.
2006-12-06 19:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously loves you. but you really need to get into rehab. i had a friend who's bf was on cocaine...and that was a bad time for her. he came and destroyed her things because something was moved so he wouldn't sell it for cocaine. for the sake of your gf...please go to rehab.
2006-12-06 19:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into rehabilitation, and now! You're so fortunate to have somebody willing to stand by you. Don't abuse that love, but deserve it by doing the right thing!
2006-12-06 19:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep on falling off the wagon way should she give up on having a good life because you want to be stupid and do drugs and waste money on something that is not good for you or her
2006-12-06 19:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by baby girl 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the drugs go get help sounds like you have a great women your going to lose if you dont get help...
2006-12-06 19:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by Mafia6969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋