How do you handle a child with an unreasonable (too costly, too personal etc) gift (Christmas, birthday etc) for the ex-spouse???
We all know it's mom or dad's job to buy the gifts from the children to the other parent.
In the case of divorce:
How does one handle the too expensive gift......do you set a limit for the child to spend...give the child the money and let him or her shop?
What about the overly personal .......for instance the diamond commericals....hey dad.....let's get mom that diamond necklace for Christmas? How do you handle that??
Generally speaking how do most people handle gifts from the children to the ex-spouse???
PS....any one who wants to rant about unreasonable gifts....I can think of one 'children's' gift that is totally unreasonable.....feel free.
2006-12-06 11:24:52 · 10 answers · asked by lolasmom19 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a great opportunity to teach your child about a budget. Set a budjet for them, for example you will give them $25 to spend on their mother for Christmas. If they find something is more expensive, they will need to come up with the rest of the money to buy it. Suggest the ex do the same for you. Take them out and show them how much the gift they want will cost. Teach them to price similar gifts at different stores, teach them to compare quality. Then tell them that maybe they can't get it for this Christmas, but that now that they know how much it is, they can save their money and buy it for her for Mothers day or next Christmas. Make sure that you tell the ex, that they have something special they are saving their money for, so that she does not make them spend it on something else, or you hold onto the money for the child. If there are several children, maybe they can all work together to earn the money to buy her this gift.
You supporting them in this will show them that you aren't trying to turn them from their mother. You putting them on a budget and having them save, will teach them a very important lesson. It will also make them feel good that it came from them, and it it will mean more to her that they worked hard for her to have it. It might even help them appreciate both of you more.
2006-12-06 11:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Bella....my ex and I do not buy gifts for one another from the kids..my kids make things in school and they give thoes to the respective parent at the time...for Christmas they make one for each of us so that settles that...my niece is like that very demanding and pouty about what she wants and if it is the wrong thing...she will make a face and sometimes be very rude and my sister and husband don't do a whole lot about it..they may say her name as if to discipline her but it never goes any further than that...then my other sister they do not have a lot of money and their daughter loves anything that she gets and she is very grateful and you can tell she is...I personally do not think it is necessary for the ex's to exchange gifts but I guess it really is up to the indiviual family...
2006-12-06 11:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get the child the gift you can afford to get it is not a competition between you and your ex the most important gift you can give the child is regular visits and to keep in touch on a regular basis and be there if the child ever needs you toys go out of fashion good parents never will good luck to you all and hope you have a happy life
2006-12-06 11:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Edward B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children have no right to give gifts with other peoples money, it doesnt teach them anything and basically has no meaning. If a child wants to give a gift, then that child needs to save up allowance and use their own earned money to do so. Watch and see as the child becomes shrewd and realizes its expensive to give gifts. LOL
2006-12-06 11:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I have been you, i might take alongside the girl who's keen to bypass, and the two one in all you and the MOH could maybe dangle at his place and characteristic an remarkable time. enable the others understand that in the event that they choose to have a variety of party for you, it quite is fantastic too. they might spend extra desirable than that on a evening out on the city, even in MI. i'm guessing that this has to do with $$$ extra desirable than teenagers. Did they purchase bridesmaid outfits yet? Hmm... Makes me ask your self... sturdy success and characteristic relaxing besides!
2016-10-17 22:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy gave his three kids each 20 dollars to take their mom out for supper.this was mostly for the kids to do something for their mom. my opion, there should be a limit and then let the child pick out the present they think their other parent will like
2006-12-06 11:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by thepainter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible to buy things for your child to give to your ex....I rather bathe in boiling tar then buy a gift for my ex! This is so not your problem!
2006-12-06 11:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by christine a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never by my ex anything from my son...if he wants my son to get him something i think he can give him the money and my exes mother can take him out to buy a gift.
2006-12-06 11:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You simply set price limits...if you can't do that with your child...who is the parent here? Not the child I hope.
2006-12-06 11:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband never buys his ex-wife any sort of gift, not even from the kid. I'd steer clear of it altogether...
2006-12-06 11:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋