I was just wondering if this is normal behaviour as i was out on a lesson on tuesday and as soon as i got into the car i could tell he was in a bit of a mood.
Later on when going round a round about(for the first time),i was giving way to traffic and he started yelling at me to go out,i am a nervous person at the best of times and he just totally put me off,obviously i know i was wrong to stop but i dont think he needed to shout at me as i wasn`t putting us in any danger.
I just couldn`t wait for the lesson to end so i could get out the car,as i knew i was going to cry as he just made me feel like a total dunce and i`m now dreading my next lesson as i dont have any confidence but i cant cancel as i`ve got a block of 25 hours left.any advice appreciated,thanx.
2006-12-06 11:12:55 · 24 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
Laugh? I nearly exploded !!
that's one of the funniest things i think i've ever seen on yahoo.
as a straight question, anyway.
oh my giddy aunt what a hoot !!!!
don't worry, it is all good experience. just imagine when ur driving with a car load of kids and ur best friend says "Doesn't the noise those kids are making bother u?"
say nothing......just smile !!!!!!!
2006-12-06 11:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaargh! No it isn't they should never do it. If he has a temper what's he doing being a driving instructor in the first place?
He has not displayed professional behaviour. From what you say it isn't your fault. That I base on your 1st para. He was in a bad mood before you got in the car, so it's HIS problem, nothing you did. You may never find out why, maybe he just had a blazing row with his partner on the mobile, maybe he just got a parking ticket or his previous "victim" pranged the car or ... ? Whatever the reason he should never take it out on you, that's appalling.
As for advice, put it out of your mind, forget it & move on. Very difficult I'm sure, but the next time will be better, you must believe & expect that. I presume he's a 1 man firm 'cause otherwise you'd see if there was any body else in that organisation who could take over from him.
Was he recommended? In which case have a word with whoever did.
Confidence is a difficult thing, do something you are good at to build it back up. Plan something you enjoy for shortly after the next lesson so that you've something to look forward too after the next lesson. I don't know maybe a chick flick, or an "all men are bastards, only good for 1 thing & you don't need it as much as they want it" bitching session with girlfriends?
Finally (& I expect you'll say "NO way, I couldn't possibly") but at least consider it -Talk to him about your last lesson before your next. You are paying him, he works for you, I think you should tell him you were unhappy. You shouldn't be aggressive, but be assertive. Try to avoid getting too personal about his bad behaviour, but you must find a way to let him know it was unacceptable. If you haven't resolved it before you next get in his car then I suggest you do it first. Turn the engine off. That should send a message that you are in control. Which you should be even if it feels like you are not. It's an old phrase "The customer is always right" but it's true. You are the boss. It wasn't your fault. Please don't drive off before it's resolved. You'll not be able to discuss it while your driving because you will be concentrating 110% on that. It ain't gonna be easy, but you will get through this.
Use ask another question next week to keep us informed. Millions of us have been through the driving & test experience, it gets better with continuing practice.
In the unlikely event that the second time is not a considerable improvement then you will have to face asking him for your money back and finding another instructor.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 12:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, that is not at all normal! Driving instructors are most definitely not allowed to shout at you. Is he self-employed or does he just work for a driving school? If there are more instructors then you could ask for a different one, but I personally would put in a complaint and ask for a full refund. Don't be too scared to show him up, he obviously wasn't concerned about your feelings.
Failing that, take another lesson but shout back at him - that will shut the idiot up!
2006-12-06 11:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is indeed the behaviour of an incompentent, inept instructor. If I were you, it'd be a good idea to try another instructor. That way, chances are, lessons will be more enjoyable, and you'll probably not need as many lessons before taking the test.
You say you can't cancel as you've block-booked a number of lessons, but still, do try and cancel that booking if that's what you want to do. Don't be fooled into thinking you've got to stick with that driving school.instructor, because when all's said and done, do you really want to throw your money away on terrible driving lessons?
2006-12-06 11:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by mr_carburettor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him from the outset, quite calmly and clearly, that you don't appreciate being shouted at and ask him why he did it. Maybe he didn't realise how he was upsetting you, though he SHOULD have done.
Just sometimes it's a technique that works with some pupils, but only with some, and professionalism requires that an instructor "knows his pupil" and adjusts his technique to suit.
You are the boss, you are paying for lessons. If it's a multi-instructor school you are with, you can always tell the head of the school that you find your instructor offensive, and demand another.
2006-12-06 19:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by champer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he shouldnt be shouting at you, he obviously had a bad day and took it out on you. Your only learning, he should be patient with you. If he does it again why not say to him 'look im really nervous, you shouting isnt helping me'. Is it with a driving centre? Cant you change instructors if he carrys on? Anyway, good luck with the driving.
2006-12-06 11:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Wings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God 25 hours, that is a hobby not a serious attempt to teach you.
perhaps next time he will help you to relax in a quiet layby in the countryside, thats how my mates wife got pregnant.
Why not find a lady driving instructor, or if you are that nervous decide whether you should drive at all indecision has no place behind the wheel when a child dashes out from behind parked cars chasing a ball, a child was killed near here by a car reversing at walkng pace, speed does not kill, but a ton of Mini does when it runs over you
2006-12-06 13:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually just took my road test, and as someone who also learned how to drive on a standard (in the beginning) I would highly recommend trying (if it is possible) to take some lessons in an automatic. I'm not sure if this is possible, given your money situation, but it really helps to be able to focus on the actually fine-tuning of your skills as opposed to just trying to keep the car rolling! It is a wonderful thing to be able to drive stick, but if you're really worried about your actual driving skills, I would recommend trying out an automatic. If this is not a plausible solution, I would recommend telling your instuctor exactly what you're feeling uncomfortable with behind the the wheel and see if you can practice your basics gear-shifting in a quiet neighbourhood where you won't have to worry about holding up traffic. For the more fast-paced highway skills, I suppose the best thing is to just keep trying your best and always err on the side of caution. And if at all available, I would definitely recommend taking your final test on an automatic. The last thing you need during an exam is added pressure! Good Luck!
2016-03-13 04:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Nedra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No a driving instructor is not allowed to shout at you, it could make you nervous and you could end up having an accident. You should report him to the head of the driving school
2006-12-06 11:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think he should shout at you…unless your actions endangered both of you.
Let me put things in perspective though, when I learnt many years ago…my instructor was separated from his wife, which had turned him into a borderline alcoholic… not really recommended!
Looking back, I wonder why I even got in the car with the guy!
2006-12-06 11:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Crusty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋