MY HUSBAND LOVES ORAL SEX AT LEAST TWICE A WEEK. I FEEL IT IS DEGRADING ALL THE TIME. I WILL DO IT BUT IT BECOMES MORE OF A CHORE AFTER AWHILE. IS IT NORMAL FOR HIM TO WANT THIS SO MUCH AND FOR ME TO DESPISE IT SO MUCH? AM I BEING UNFAIR IF I DO NOT SUBMIT? I HAVE NO PROBLEM MAKING LOVE BUT THERE IS NO CLOSENESS WITH THIS ACT IN MY OPINION.
2006-12-06 11:07:46 · 25 answers · asked by wise1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might want to discuss with him on this. There is no standard rules or ways for having sex. If you are uncomfortable, you have to tell him. Maybe change it to once a week, and then try on other thing. Fairness is one good thing.
2006-12-06 11:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Fish Master 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel but your husband obviously likes oral jobs. So what i suggest is dont make him feel bad about it because its his sexual desires that you do it for him, you would like the same in return if there was a certain thing you wanted him to do. If you want to make the sexual act more appealing then maybe make it more fun by using whipped cream, chocolate sauce... and even change your technique of giving him oral, make it that he cums a lot faster by using different styles of going down on him. Search the web for different styles.
Dont deprive your husband of oral when he obviously likes it, just try to enjoy it by trying different methods.
I know what im talking about because my partner loves oral sex, i tried to avoid it and it only got him frustrated so i changed my technique and its better now, hes happy and so am i
2006-12-06 11:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by cheekee_bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is part of making love. Why not do both twice a week? I guess your saying that you don't want to make love twice a week? I don't know. But, if that is the case; then if you give him oral sex then you don't have to have the other. It's normal for him to want oral sex all day long; every day so twice a week....your getting off easy..no punn intended.
2006-12-06 11:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should be mutual. He should be giving and receiving, not just receiving. Don't spoil him or his appreciation for you will diminish. It sounds as though you need to let him know how you feel and have him do you too when he wants to get done. Oral sex feels great and many men love it. That has nothing to do with being selfish about it. Neither giving or receiving oral sex is degrading but being treated unfairly is and you have to address it.
2006-12-06 11:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by jazzcrazy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him that! There are others things to do in bed besides **** and have oral sex. Try compromising with him. If you're willing to "do the deed" just once a week, what's something that you would like for him to do to you or for you? This would be an excellent time to "experiment" with other things without actually having intercourse. (I'd have a VERY hard time giving examples without risking having my answer reported or deleted so use your imagination and dig deep into those fantasies that you have.) Just wondered if you're OK with him giving you oral sex but grossed out by the thought of his wanger in your mouth, or just not into oral sex in any way, shape or form?
2006-12-06 11:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be careful sweetie.
The main reason men go outside a marrige, is for things they're not getting at home. Would sure hate to see your next question up here after the New Year wondering why your hubby is straying.
Talk with him and work it out. Smart women get this one right on the first try.
2006-12-06 11:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. Does he perform for/on you? My situation is quite similar, only I love to give and she does not like to give. Once in a while I wish she would just do it, but, I would not ask her to because I feel if she wanted to she would. Maybe try chocolate or a favorite flavor on him while you task. OR, just don't do it as often. 69 might be the best way to go about this also . . . that way, both are being pleased in the same and equal way ;)
2006-12-06 11:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about it, tell him that you do not enjoy it as much as he does and make a deal with him, if he does you, you'll do him. But I find no problem with it, my husband and I have a very healthy sex life. But I can say that is because we talk about sex and let each other know what we like and don't like.
2006-12-06 14:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by mason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he at least reciprocate? Do you enjoy when he is doing you that way? Most wives have different tastes my first wife literally spit for 30 minutes one memorable night...funny how someone who hated doing that so strongly bragged after our divorce how she HAD to GET 2 LOADS a day minimum and couldn't live without it...didn't bother me she was never any good at it anyway....
2006-12-06 11:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal for your husband to want it; most guys enjoy it, and want it often. I don't think it's quite normal to feel it is "degrading"; for the most part, in a loving relationship, it shouldn't feel this way. The majority of my women friends say they enjoy doing it for their lovers/husbands.
2006-12-06 11:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋