attention-starved friend flirting with my crush? HELP!!?

Question

my best friend is great.. we laugh nonstop together & love each other to death. but, due to a broken family life, etc, she is very deprived of attention. this is one of her few major flaws. i never really minded it much until now, when i began to like this guy. the thing is, im so shy around him and can never get any words out. i guess she didnt like his attention away from her, so she, being the social butterfly she is, has begun to talk to him when im not around (in classes that im not in) i hear from different people that she is flrting w/ him (which she does with many ppl). she is friendly, pretty, outgoing, good at making personal connections.. so im worried that he'll begin to like her

i know that "a true friend wouldnt do that" but she has a tough background and its understandable (besides, ending the friendship is NOT an option). when i asked her to stop flirting with the guy, she got defensive & b!tchy. how do i get her to stop flirting w/o making things sore btwn us?

i should also mention that my crush and i had a "thing" at the beginning of the school year, where we would hook up occasionally while drunk.

this might explain why i feel like she's invading what i've "claimed" (not that hes property lol)

Answer 1

You simply have to tell her how you feel...that you like him and it makes you uncomfortable that she talks to him the way she does. I had a friend just like that. I grew up being an attractive girl (can't say that has changed-lol) and had no problem attracting guys, but like you, when I liked them, I would freeze. My "social butterfly" friend would come in and get all the attention and would converstate with my conquests when I wasn't around. Eventually she would end up with the guy, which ended our friendship because when she crossed the line with a guy I actually did like a lot, and for which I spoke out about it, she didn't appreciate my honesty. I didn't appreciate her eating my left overs. lol. That was my experience. Just be careful that she isn't a "friendnemy" (friend/enemy)

Answer 2

Not worried. Youth is the right time to meet many different
people that will become friends in your important adult life. A
personal relationship will never develop versus this general
trusting days of growing up together. Really there is nothing
about gossip that is true to the world in reality. Making ideas
is a part of your presentation of what you are, how you care,
and the right idea is with you. God's beautiful created children
need to stick together and grow into the trained educated peeps
that will be good workers. Pay attention to helping and making
friends, attraction for private love is a serious package. Get
into the fact that he is interested and you have to learn all about
boys families and interests to go forward. Next stop, general
dating to the soda shop. Hang loose, topten music, skating.

Answer 3

well, first of all, good luck in trying to ask her to stop without making her mad--i'm pretty sure that's not gonna happen..but if she knew that you liked him before she ever started talking to him, then maybe she'll come around and realize that your friendship is more important to her than some guy, and then you would be free to flirt/go out with him..but I guess first you need to A) find out if he likes her, or you for that matter, before you make a big deal about it, and B) be more assertive in the situation..make yourself known to him, and then maybe he'll stop flirting with her, and you will be in like flynn! lol hope this helps :)

Answer 4

if she was really your friend, she wouldn't start sh_t like that. She has problems and I don't think you can help, she has to solve her past herself and just not let the past get to her. We're here right now, this is now.

but really, DON'T EVER believe rumors, its sh_t. Confront her yourself, ask her if she really DOES. But she has the right to flirt with him since you're NOT dating him. Get better than her, become a social butterfly like her! A better one! Practive talking, starting small talk, go online and research for some witty phrases and stuff ;') it'll make the boys go crazy.

Answer 5

ok whatever the reason your friend has with flirting is her own, but if this is bothering you, then you should talk to her about it and ask her not to flirt with your crush as a good friend im sure she will stop, she probably doesnt notice what she is doing..and if you have a crush on the boy , tell him already before he gets the wrong idea from your friend..

Answer 6

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Answer 7

He's your crush, not your boyfriend, fiance or husband. The only thing that would matter if she was flirting is if he was your husband.
Get over it, stop taking it so seriously and remember that it takes two people to do something. He may be sending her signals to make her flirt with him.

Or you can kick her a ss and get it over with.

Answer 8

you say she's flirty with everyone, so i wouldnt worry about it, guys can see that and thoses kind of girls arent really "relationship material", he wouldnt appreciate her flirty nature either, so just keep being yourself around him, dont make yourself look jealous, and if its meant to be it will happen

Answer 9

don't hate her... if ur crush is hot then she mite just be doin' it cuz she thinks he's hot 2. but if u want him 2 b urs, ask him out and keep him urs