How to keep the love in a relationship going ?

Answer 1

Get a notebook or diary, type it on your blog or wherever. But everyday, or as often as possible, write down 10 things you like about that person. Try not to be repetitive but you can be. Your 10 things can be little or they can be big. They can be personality traits (his humor) physical features (gotta love those eyes) or things he did (he was nice enough to take out the trash) or something he said (he overheard him telling his buddies that he loves your smile). This has been one of the greatest helps to me, 'cause it's a contanst reminder as to why you feel in love in the first place, and it helps you discover new things you like so your love grows. And it points out a very helpful thing in any relationship, look for the positive and not the flaws.

Do things together and spice it up. At least once a week have a night devoted to just the two of you together. Don't do the same thing every week. One week do the traditional date, dinner and a movie, the next just cuddle up on your couch and talk about opinions you have on current issues, one week remake your first (or another memorable) date, do something that you've been curious about doing like going rock climbing. Oh and doing something a little more edgy will help cause adrenaline can stimulate feelings of love. The changing what you do can go with physical intamcy as well, passion everynight is all great, but you get used to it. Add a couple nights in there where all you do is hug or a quick peck. It'll remind you to fully appreciate those passionate times, and remind you that there's more to this relationship than lust.

If they person seems to get on your nerves a bit, take a break for a day or two. Have a girl's night out and then go back to hanging out with him the next day. You both need to have something else in your life other than each other or you'll start to annoy them.

I once heard someone who i respect a lot (and was married for i think 70 years, until his wife died) say, As long as you still hold hands you're doing fine.

Answer 2

okay, keep repeating to yourself why did you love them in the first place, what was that feeling you got when you first met them, when you first fell in love with them, keep repeating and keep connecting to yourself and face the facts--are the feelings they are like how you first fell in love with that person, or did it get more intense? If its gone, then face it--love is not love if it fades.


EDIT: you might wanna keep away from him for at least a week or two, you know..you need your space---go out with your girlfriends to a club or an all-girls night, take a nice long walk, think to yourself about your feelings, sort it all out! And if you start missing him, baby, you love him.

Answer 3

Thanks Kali, didn't post the question but did learn a lot from you! I was reminded of an article on preventing adultery. It says if we only know the needs of each one, then we'll have a more lasting love relationship. WOMAN'S NEEDS: affection, conversation, honesty and openness, Financial commitment and family commitment, WHILE MAN'S NEEDS are sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, an attractive spouse, domestic support, and admiration.. Guess, if we continue to provide each one's needs then we'll have the LOVE FOR A LIFETIME.

Answer 4

Surprise each other ocassionally. Mix up the routine every once in a while. Have fun with each other.