How do I not hurt a friends feelings if I decide to skip inviting her to a family event? Here is the question,

Question

I have a close friend that I usually invite to most of our family functions. My sister doesn't like this person anymore and doesn't want to invite her out during a birthday celebration (it's my sister's b-day). My pal will know, since my sister is inviting other friend that we all know well and have in common. It's not really my decision since it isn't my birthday, right? I'm not sure what to do, so I am taking suggestions.

Answer 1

Like you just said it's your sister's birthday party she invites who she wants..it's out of your hands...I'd make sure that your friend understands that it's not your decision and maybe do something special with her as soon as you can. You have no control who your sister likes or invites to her bday parties

Answer 2

Yes, this time it's your sister's decision on who to invite because it's her birthday party. This person must know that your sister doesn't like him/her anymore and they're probably not expecting an invitation anyway. Friendships come and go and if you are still friends with this person then they will understand about your sister's dislike of them and will probably be happy not to go to the party!!! You go and enjoy yourself!!!

Answer 3

If you get along with your sister as a friend, more than just a sister then you need to have a sit down talk with her and nip it in the bud....it sounds as if you're mature so it would seem all involved could be mature enough to handle this friend tagging along. Guys tell their guy relatives how it's going to be and guys know the code, that if your brother asks you to do it, just go along and work it out. Think about it, perhaps your friend does come along and she and your sister actually have fun together and things are resolved....ever think of that? Guys push the envelope because they know petty differences will eventually work themselves out....plain and simple. Be a grown up and tell your sister to be one as well and LETS ALL JUST go out and have FUN!! Otherwise, if you aren't "in" with your sister on the friendship tip, blow her off and even go do something with your friend that night.....Your sister won't care unless she's a child. And, think of it this way, who is being selfish or being childlike here? Your friend, your sister?? Which? Please the one that is being the adult and go with the flow, in the long run you'll be happy. What's the worse that could happen if you all went out together anyhow?? Just all of you go out, then go home, strip down to your panties and have a tickle fight... That's what girls do.....right? : ) Good Luck, Be Well.... love, Jack

Answer 4

That's a tough one... you could tell her a small lie like, "only so many people could go and I wasn't allowed to invite anyone" or you could just tell her the truth

Answer 5

It's your sisters birthday so up to her who she invites.

Nothing for you to worry about

Answer 6

your right its not your decision. your friend will understand. if not then she has abandonment issues. no jk. tell her its not your choice. or tell ur sister u dont feel like coming unless your friend can, and go chill with your friend

Answer 7

Yeah it's your sister's party. Don't get involved. Let them work it out.

Answer 8

its not your birthday its your sisters so go with the flow if your sister does not want her there that is not your fault is it

Answer 9

well tell her it is your sisters party and there was nothing i could do, she just wanted them

Answer 10

I am sure she kinows your sis has a problem with her. tell her why she can't come and let her ans your sis duke it out, make sure she knows it is not you that is excluding her!