What steps do you take to keep an argument from getting out of hand? Is there anything you do in particular to "cool down"? When dealing with my soon to be X, I usually walk away and believe it or not drink a big glass of water and cool out. So what works for you?
2006-12-06 10:45:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for a ride on my motorcycle
2006-12-06 10:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I, instead of blowing up at each other, if something is bothering us, instead of blowing up right away, we take a little time, cool down, and then we sit down and rationally talk about it. Like if she said or did something that upset me, I tell her what it was that upset me, then she repeats back to me what it was that upset me. Then she asks what she could do to not have this happen again, then I give my suggestion, and she repeats back what I said, that way she knows what I said, or vice versa if she's upset with me.
It's helped us to resolve alot of conflicts in a much healthier way and it's helped us to become closer to each other. And also we don't yell and scream at each other.
Hope that this works for you.
Take care, God Bless and Merry Christmas
2006-12-06 11:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i take a walk. seriously, i walk out in the middle of the argument, i don't care what is going on, what the weather is, whether or not i have shoes on, i just walk until i'm not upset anymore. anytime i got upset with my ex i would walk around. just disappear. he never asked where i went though, and i always came back, although sometimes it would be hours later. (guess i shouldn't have one time, and i would have been the one with the last laugh.)
2006-12-06 10:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each factor which I even have as I in no way dare to bypass to recent and new companion/Gf. some individual might bypass to new acquaintances, companion yet i'm no longer able to realize this. my spouse/gf can in no way be ex for me.
2016-10-14 04:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by tonini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe it or not im a little childish, i go and shut my self in the bathroom to think so he cant follow me and i can sort things out on my time...so i can see if im the one in the wrong...or i cook/clean/or play with my daughter... see all of those ways he gets time as well when I cook he eats, when I clean he stops to help a little or stays out of my way, and when I play with my daughter, her laughter makes it easy..
2006-12-06 11:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by heathers_work_from_home 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just keep quiet and escape in dream land.
I am a very laid back person, I believe in talking.
2006-12-06 10:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just quit talking or just say "ok" and walk away. this in no way means that i agree with him, i just take the power in the fight by refusing to participate in it. this works really well. i tend to get really angry, so i do this to keep myself sane and to leave him with nobody to argue with.
2006-12-06 10:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by hannah1015 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I just remind them to never hit me during an argument. Or else I will raise my hand to them too and point my gun. I aim to please. Not one argument I've ever had has gotten out of hand.
2006-12-06 10:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i used to just sit there and listen and let him say everything he had to say...then i would say what i had to say...then we'd both go into seperate rooms until we cooled off
2006-12-06 10:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD SAY YOU BETTER CALM DOWN OR I WOULD GET AN TEMPER TANTRUM WITH YOUDO NOT TRY TODO ALL THESE THINGS IN FRONT OF ANYONE.
2006-12-06 10:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Aoasha H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋