In life we all have many roles to play (daughter, mum, wife, sister, friend, worker etc) and often forget to make time for the real "me".
Ignore the detractors and well done you for managing to do it.
2006-12-10 05:55:36
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answered by Amanda K 7
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Oh tell me about it, what it is is jelousy.
I have two children and a husband, I dance twice a week, go out with my friends once and my husband once a week.
My children are in bed by 7 and thats my time to do as i please.
If i am happy and content then i have alot to give to others, if i am repressed and miserable i have nothing to give.
People will judge because they can't get the balance or they don't have a need to have more in there lifes then there secure family unit.
My question to them is if that goes wrong what will u have left in ur life?
Keep as u are ur doning well and teaching your family how a women can be happy and responsible at the same time xx
2006-12-07 00:35:03
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answered by sammyantha 4
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Starting a family of your own with the right person is having the life. We all grow up and move on to that stage where we think about our future. It is going to be a struggle I have to say but it shouldn't be when both of you would share responsibilities and respect each other. Being married doesn't exactly tie you in the kitchen, maybe he would do the same on the weekends for you?
2006-12-07 15:50:33
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answered by Macky 2
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I don't think it's wrong. If my wife wants to spend time with friends, I don't have a problem with it. We all need a little time away from our spouses and kids. I have no problem if my wife goes out with friends for a girls night out. Honestly it's healthy. My wife doesn't mind if I go out with friends. It's healthy for a marriage for a husband and wife not to spend all their time together. If you have your own intrests, that's fine. As long as he's supporting of you and it's ok with the family, go right ahead. As far as the people commenting that you should be chained to the kitchen sink is rediculous. I believe that marriage is to be a partership, that it's NOT the wife's duty to do all the cooking and cleaning. I cook and clean in my house also.
Hope that this helps.
Take care, God Bless & Merry Christmas
2006-12-06 10:47:45
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answered by Bryan M 5
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do not listen to those people. You need to have some interests of your own to make your life full and to make you a more interesting person. You need to have a life, as long as your responsibilities are taken care of and your husband should support this as you should for him. One day one of you will have to go on alone and it will be much better if you had a life outside of being chained to the kitchen sink.
2006-12-06 10:46:30
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answered by CindyLu 7
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Are you wild? Do you see your friend everyday? Do you talk on the phone for along time to your friends, everyday? Do you go out almost every week end? or Do you have friends that come over every weekend? If not don't worry about it. But if answer more then 1 your doing to much. No one really wants you chained to the kitchen sink they just NEED you to slow it down. Your family comes first. You think because you take good care of your husband and kids that's good enough? You need to read the proper care and feeding of husbands and read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships and stupid things parents do to mess up their kids by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. If you really want your own question answer take the time to read these books. I'm not putting judgment. I also needed a lot of help and I starting reading these self help books and listen to Dr. Laura talk radio show on 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri CA time. take care and do the right thing.
2006-12-06 11:03:41
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answered by Anonymous
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I think it's essential to have interests of your own! Lucky you to have a family and a supportive partner. If you and your family are happy then what does anyone else have to say about it? Who are these other people and why do they feel the need to interfere?
2006-12-06 23:42:47
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answered by Skidoo 7
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provided you spend quality time with your family and dont abondon them completely then of course you're entitled to seeing your friends and having a life outside marriage.
However - if you are one of these women that is out galavanting nearly everynight and not providing a stable home life for your family then I would be completely against that!
You need to find the right balance! xx
2006-12-07 03:36:32
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answered by Anonymous
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What crap of course you can have a life..... but not a seperate life . Now that you have a family life revolves around them , not just you..... You can go shopping with the girls and girly nights out if you want to . You can stay in and be with your family. Or go out to friends with your husband..... Life doesnt stop because your have a family. it just means that they have to form part of the equation and musnt be neglected..... Not that I think you would ever neglect them.... Have fun with them after all they are part of you....
X I bet you make a wonderful mother and wife X
2006-12-06 22:40:40
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answered by Fox Hunter 4
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It is totally alright and absolutely needed.
Just because you have a husband and kids doesn't mean your life is over. The quickest way to a divorce is to lose yourself, your own identity, in the relationship.
According to Buddhism, there are four elements of true love:
1. Loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.
2. Compassion. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in order to be able to help him or her to change.
3. Joy If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love--it is even the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.
4. Freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real.
2006-12-06 10:54:25
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answered by Anonymous
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I think the happiest relationships allow scope to all memebers and trust the essential quality is actually stronger. It brings in fresh influences and interests into what can become stale and mundane routine. I would commend outside interest whole heartedly. It is only small minded people that object. That's why I have a big head lol
2006-12-06 10:49:31
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answered by philipscottbrooks 5
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