me and my bf broke up 2 months ago.We didn't fight or anything we just had no time to talk and be with each other anymore.But we still get in touch from time to time and just this week I found out that he reconciliated with his ex-gf.They had more than 4 yr relationship and I thought it's already over.it hurts me thinking that he just used me to forget and get over his gf.He still wants to make friends with me but I can't allow it anymore.He said he loves me but I let go of him that's why he went back to his GF.So sad but have to accept it.Is there any easy way to lighten this burden.and just be free with the heartaches and hatred.
2006-12-06 10:29:31 · 12 answers · asked by deepthinker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget him and move on . Take the time to mourn the relationship and let it go . You will be happier someday .
2006-12-06 10:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no easy and quick way to heal a broken heart. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting. Letting go is the letting go of the hurt. This is something that just takes the time it takes. There are times in life when it's appropriate to feel bad, this is one of those times. Feel your feelings-allow yourself to ...give yourself permission to feel hurt, sad, to mourn the loss....because that's what it really is. At the same time look around you--realize that yes, you made it through another day..it Is possible to not only survive, but to begin to really live again. Your Mr. Right is doing exactly what you are--you're going through the things you need to .. to learn from and grow into the person you need to be when you meet. If you can walk away from this relationship having learned more about yourself and more about what you need....then it won't have been for nothing.
2006-12-06 18:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by kleinhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your consideration; Relationships begin with the relationship you have with yourself. If you like yourself (and, after all, you are the best person you know), then you don't have to worry about others liking you. Either they do or don't. But liking youself is the most important thing you can learn. Then everything else fals into place. And if your ex bf wants to be "friends" good. If he doesn't, then he's the one whose missing out on having a relationship with the best person you know.
2006-12-06 18:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "how to" let go. With each day it becomes easier IF you let go of the burden (as you put it) inside. Try not to let a bad situation turn into a "burden". It will eat you up and cause terrible depression that will take even longer to overcome. Brighten up ---even when you don't feel like it, smile, and move on. I'm sure you have plenty to offer someone that will appreciate YOU!
2006-12-06 18:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some things cant be changed. now you know he cant keep only you as a girl friend why not make up your mind to forget about him. there is much power in your decision. there is no way you can forget what he s done to you. what you should do is to make up your mind that you cant allow what has happened to determine your emotion. if you didnt know human beings are made to offend. next time the thought of what he did to you comes, tell yourself i cant do anything about this but to carry on with life. in a nutshell, decide not to be hurt for we are made to offend others.
2006-12-06 18:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by favourprosperity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is playing mind games with you and probably is now not ex gf too!!! A relationship is hard to get over but I feel that you need to cut ties with this guy and move on, otherwise he'll continue to drag you down. It doesn't say much for his respect for women when he's admitting to you that he's back with his ex for all the wrong reasons. What's he telling her??
2006-12-06 19:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Scotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he never got over the girlfriend, he was mostlikely seeing her all along, and is blaming you as the reason he decided to go back to her. ofcourse u can't still be friends with him, have to distance yourself from him. u have to forgive him, this does not mean he is off the hook for his part in your hurt, just means u are setting him free and expecting no more from him. he was seeing her all along, and u just didn't know it, that may be why he had no time for u. got to just accept the truth, and know sometimes people aren't who we thought they were, u will feel hurt over this, for awhile. but time and distance will diminish your pain. just have to get out there and start doing things, even if your heart is breaking. don't let him see you are hurt, and don't blame yourself as he made the choice, not you. evidently he wasn't over her like you thought he was. but quit beating yourself up over it, and blaming yourself. get some help from a trusted family member, a therapist, a minister, or priest, and love yourself, and take no blame for this, as he was already seeing her when you and he broke it off. best to know now, than before u were married to him, or had children to think about. he just wasn't honest with you about his feeling's for her. we sometimes see what we want to see, and commit before we have a foundation on which to really build a strong relationship on. sometimes we commit when we believe what someone tells us, and that is no falt of yours, as we can't always know what lies in the future, or what is on someone's mind.
2006-12-06 19:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to forget is to forgive the person's done something wrong with you.All of your hatreds and heatrtaches will mend if you forgive him.It's not easy to forgive but you can do it with prayer......make a journal and write all your bitterness there.It will help you to ease some pain that you're going through.
2006-12-06 19:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start thinking on what kind of relationship you want in the future and accept he is no the one who will give it to you, and every time you feel like calling him think that it will not get you closer to finding someone who will love you back.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 18:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by ggm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this same thing. almost. except he was back with her and i didn't even know we broke up. it killed me until one day i just realized that i am better off without him. it only happened because i had our son that day (and of course he wants nothing to do with him which is fine with me, he doesn't need an a$$hole like that in his life) because he put me through so much hell. i realized i don't deserve to be treated like that. i am second best to no one. and if they don't realize that, they can go.
you are never going to forget the pain that he put you through. like my dad said. i was crying over my ex in the hospital the day i had my son, and my dad said,"you know how you feel right now?" i said yes and he said, "remember it. don't ever let him use you again because he will make you feel like this again."
it will come, but you will get over it. it takes time.
2006-12-06 18:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋